My partners mother is very pushy and overbearing. She announced a few weeks ago that she was coming to see her grandson and basically landed on us without asking and without telling us how long she planned to stay. She buys a lot of stuff for DS and insists on paying for everything when she's here. I appreciate all of this of course but don't appreciate anyone coming to stay without asking and checking it's ok, never mind telling me what to do and treating me like the cow that feeds the child. She regularly takes over when I'm changing him, dresses him up the way she wants, grabs him out of my arms and is away too close and touchy while I'm BF. We have a small apartment (1 bed) and a small baby and having visitors for a couple of days takes its toll. After 3 days of me having to spend all day with her I cracked and asked DP to find out how long she was planning to stay. I figured if it was longer than a week then I'd ask her to at least give me some hours at home daily on own with baby, just for the head space. When I asked DP took offense and told her I wanted her to leave. She was 'hurt' and felt unwelcome and sulked and gave me the cold shoulder for the next 2 days until she could get a ticket home. I don't think IABU, but somehow DP is making me feel guilty for standing up to this woman. She is his mother after all and doesn't like to see her upset. I know we could have handled it differently but i think she would still have been offended as she isn't used to being told to back off. Anyone any experience dealing with a MIL like this and how do you manage it? I've never had to deal with someone like this and need a plan as unfortunately we'll be dealing with each other other for a long time.