Should Mumsnet forum users be allowed to Swear!

[cakelover14]

No offence I enjoy reading the discussions on this board but why do mums really feel the need to swear in their posts! What kind of example are we setting as mums if we can't control the use of our tongues and use language that is obscene.

Mumsnet - why is it not your policy to remove swear words from posts? saying we are all adults doesn't excuse the use of foul language! I am sure I cannot be the only mumsnet user who doesn't want to read swear words every five seconds. It makes me close a thread and stop reading what otherwise could be an interesting read.

All I can say is no wonder every time I go the playground with my kids I hear young children using foul language when parents can't even control their tongues anymore! Unfortunately I agree the world is full of people who swear but as mums should we not take the lead in setting a good example for the next generation???

What a shame that none of you seem to be able to construct a reply without swearing and been offensive.

I did, OP. What a shame you mysteriously chose not to be able to read or remember it. In my book, that makes you appear extremely rude and dismissive. Possibly dim.

I most certainly can construct a reply without swearing or being offensive. However I do not always choose to do so. It's nice to have options. Anyway I don't need to, as many previous posters have answered the point more than adequately (and then gone on to be hilariously profane, because really, why not?).

My current workplace is full of rather sweary people (myself not the least of these) and we are also in a public facing role where getting sworn at kind of goes with the territory. A new manager started the other day, called us in for a meeting about some new procedure, as one does, and used a mildly coarse term (something like the old system being "shit") for which he instantly apologised. We all burst out laughing.

ps I think that Kate McSnatch song (and what a lovely name too!) may be the one thing that finally tips me over into getting a smartphone. Up till now even the ability to share pictures of the grandchildren hasn't been sufficient incentive. Being able to play that number at work, though, would be ace. (Not when the public are in, obviously.)

why do mums really feel the need to swear in their posts!

Because I'm an asshole.

Ooh, I beg her pardon, Kat McSnatch. Lovely voice and clever lyrics, too. Clearly she, for one, doesn't use rude words because of not knowing any others.

James Kelman did not win the Booker Prize because of the swearing.
Still don't like his writing btw.
But then there are some non-sweary authors I also don'e like.

GoT? The books are great escapism, the TV series? Meh.

Look-see, no single swear word in my entire post

Can we ban the term 'as mums'? ... Oh .... The OP isn't a failed Tory leadership candidate is she? (Hope that doesn't stray into being a 'personal attack').

Yes the term 'as mums' makes me want to fucking well vomit

I'm sorry if you find hearing swearing offensive OP - really I am. But If it does distress and upset you, then you are probably better off steering clear of environments where you will be exposed to a diversity of opinion and language.

(and then gone on to be hilariously profane, because really, why not?)

Is it hilarious? I'm not offended but I don't find it even mildly amusing let alone hilarious. The OP was always going to get pilloried but personally I think most of the swearing on MN only rarely adds anything to the point being made in a post.

In the words of the Great Mr Scroobius Pip (who inspired my username)

f I say 'fuck' a lot well then I may gain more attention;
If I say 'cunt' well then with some of you there will be tension.
I find this interesting, 'cause in the end they are just words,
You give them power when you cower, man, it's so absurd.

most of the swearing on MN only rarely adds anything to the point being made in a post.

That may be the case although creative colourful language can be very funny IMO , but even just being able to vent on an anonymous site for adults seem entirely appropriate for me.

As it has been pointed out many times in this threads and all the very similar ones that came before it: other fora are available, many of which are censored.

As a mum I am fucking grateful that I can let it all hang out on here

And I have probably said 'fuck' more on the thread than in my last 100 combined - a mildly sanctimonious OP does not bring out the lady in me.

Maybe parents who use this site to enjoy it as being somewhere they can let their hair down a bit. Just because people swear here doesn't necessarily mean they swear in front of their children. I swear like a trooper in real life but not in front of children or Granny.

This almost comes across as one of those comments designed to boost site traffic...

I think those who swear here - on this thread, I mean - think they are so very hilarious.
Epic fail.

No, we think the OP is sanctimonious.
HTH.

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Can't even do memes here.
SIGH

Yes you can

Epic fail

Have we traveled back to the early 2000's .

Well ailith can't work the internet so looks like it

Well ailith can work the internet. I thought the meme was mildly amusing.

I think most of the swearing on MN only rarely adds anything to the point being made in a post. Possibly but personally speaking I find swearing quite cathartic. If used sparingly it can help to make emphasis. A long as it isn't abusive...

It's more this idea of being allowed that bothers me. An adult is going to decide whether another adult can swear?

Complaining about swearing on mumsnet is like going to an Italian restaurant and complaining about about all the pizza and pasta. The owners describe us as the sweary site. I don't need to swear all the time but I like that I am not restricted on here.

It's the idea that we shouldn't be 'allowed' because we are mums which is (despite the weaselly 'no offense' at the start of the OP ) seriously objectionable. It makes my feminist hackles rise. It doesn't make me personally want to swear (unless I get so irritated I drop my tablet on my foot in which case I'll apply a medicinal cuss if necessary) but it makes me defend the right of every woman to express herself as she deems fit, without any constraints which wouldn't be applied equally to men.