To not want my ex in my house or garden despite DD wanting to show him around

[Natsku]

He has come to pick her up for his day visit with her, arrived about 20 minutes ago and still hasn't bloody left. They've been in the backgarden (walked around the houses to get there), came inside as DD wanted to fill up her watering can to water a flower she found and he was looking into rooms, and now I can still hear them in the porch.

I want to tell him to just leave now but I don't want to piss him off as I've asked him to take her to a children's festival today that she really wants to go to and there's a good chance he just wouldn't take her if he is angry at me and then she'll miss out. But its not unreasonable surely to expect him to pick up at the front door and then leave my property, right?!?!

Sorry i just assumed you moved to the UK from< somewhere> still he has no right to your things hopefully he gets to a kinder place and gives you them back

I don't see why he's got any right to see where his DD lives. So many times mum's come here and ask if they're unreasonable to want to see their ex-partners new girlfriend or home before letting their child visit - all are told yes, YABU.

So I don't think you're unreasonable at all to not want him in the house. If it happens again, just usher them out saying they have to get to wherever. I wouldn't tell him it makes you uncomfortable because he sounds like the type that will twist that to his advantage.