To ask what changed your life dramatically for the better?

[youneeQuorn]

Did you find something that just changed life for you?

Be it yoga, meditation, religion, medication, therapy, a new hobby - that sort of thing

Running and getting a divorce.

Getting a dishwasher, seriously.

Mini pie, I'm currently a SAHM as o couldn't actually afford to keep working for the amount my last job paid, but it was a lovely job. I ran the children's department in a bookshop.

About 10'years ago I had a serious review of some of people I was socialising with and came to the conclusion that there were a number of folk with whom I would probably be better off 'letting go'. I was being terribly nostalgic about the longevity of some of these friendships as some of them I had known since school but it was becoming obvious that having them in my life made it more difficult then it needed to be. I believe the MN term was that they were users, they were pretty one sided friendships and I ended up getting drawn into all sorts of needless spats and I could not be arsed anymore. With them kicked to touch life became so much more less complicated and I focussed on strengthening the friendships of people who gave a shit and it has proved much more rewarding and positive.

My husband and dc
Learning to drive
Running

My children in every way.
Practically it was inheriting a large sum of money unexpectedly and then making some good investments.

Kids and DH are a given

Not going back after mat leave
DH being made redundant
Getting my asd diagnosis

Oh that sounds great Jasper hope you can return to it one day

Husband and DD are the obvious answers!

Also, going to university when I was younger, taking voluntary redundancy after having DD and becoming a SAHM, finding faith in God.

I am trying some new ones too; I have started doing yoga and have quit 'diets'. I do need to lose a few lbs after putting some on when I had DD. I've lost these few lbs a few times since with dieting but it just comes right back on again when I stop whatever diet I've been doing. Think I need to make some more permanent changes instead of these quick fixes, which is sad as I'd love a quick fix !

Apart from husband and children, there are: the freedom of driving and my own vehicle, the wonderful window on the world that is the Internet, being involved in direct action protests and realising that I can make a difference, and the friends I made, getting older and pleasing myself rather than people.

Having Schema Therapy with the most amazing therapist - I'm the person I always wanted to be but never knew how.

Duloxetine for depression.

Both life savers and no understatement

Ditching Facebook.
Getting fit- running, weights

Divorced my exh

Had counselling

Realised through counselling that it's my father who is actually not a very nice person and that's his problem not mine.

Grew my hair instead of keeping it short as my exh wanted

Oh, and getting tear trough fillers under my eyes! Totally amazing. My bags/dark circles are no more!

the housewife Hope you're doing ok at the moment - I'm full of admiration for you and so pleased that some good has come out of such a hard diagnosis.

For me...

Having a mental health breakdown and getting help to deal with that, then the subsequent ptsd after reliving a childhood trauma.

Citalopram.

Leaving teaching.

Living on my own - I need to do it again to get my sanity back.

Meeting a man who thinks I'm wonderful.

Becoming a motorsport marshal.

Meeting dh and having the dc's
Cutting all contact with toxic family members
Uni, graduating with a first and landing my dream job
And most recently and making the biggest difference to all our lives moving from a shitty first floor masionette to a beautiful semi in a small town 400miles up north

My mil telling me about an elderly woman who had got an ou degree. I thought "well if she can do it so can I!" I now have a framed first class honours degree on the wall!! I've met some lovely people, had my eyes truly opened and learnt that nothing is impossible however hard it seems.

Taking up running and discovering a kettle bell

There are other changes I need to make but not ready yet.

Leaving the area I grew up in. I just knew if I could get out of there, I'd meet new and like- minded people, have more options and it would make me a happier person.

I adore where I live now, my local community is amazing, and I find beauty everywhere. Worlds away from the dank, grey, concrete city. I appreciate my roots but I have no desire whatsoever to return ( unless visiting family).

Hip replacement age 34, scary but necessary

5HTP

Schema therapy! I'm looking earning to function as a healthy adult instead of a scared, insecure, 11 year old!

The 5:2 diet. I'm still 6 stone lighter all these years later and eat far better than I ever did before.

My diet has had to be restricted due to health reasons recently but had I never started 5:2 I would have had the mechanisms to allow me to cope.

*would not have

Having children. Was the making of me.
Getting a dog.
Running.

Quitting a job I hated and starting the job I have now.
DS, I really enjoy being a parent.