To ask what changed your life dramatically for the better?

[youneeQuorn]

Did you find something that just changed life for you?

Be it yoga, meditation, religion, medication, therapy, a new hobby - that sort of thing

Admitting I am an introvert. I need time to recharge away from people every day and I don't have to be a social butterfly and put up with social discomfort all the time.

Yoga - found my spiritual home and it can come with me every where I am.

Giving up all gluten in my diet.

Reading "before you diagnose yourself as depressed, make sure you're not surrounded by arseholes." I quit the shit job and shit boyfriend.

And related to the above - admitting that therapy wasn't working for me. I didn't need therapy, I needed to de-clutter my life.

Having times of being broke. Not that its a breeze but you get a really good vantage point of seeing what people really think of you, who they really are, and what, materially, you don't need. Liberating.

Losing a lot of weight and turning 30.

Both have had an immeasurable impact on my confidence and therefore my friendships, relationships and career, as well as my physical and mental health.

Also, living in London. I love it.

Having DD.
Going NC with DH's family.

Ooh and going to uni (and getting a 1st).

Not giving a shit

And definitely having children. Giving up smoking after 15 years too, but that was due to pregnancy so linked!

Becoming a catholic and my two cats adopted last year.

Great thread.

Moving to London from Johannesburg as a student, and all the hoops I jumped to be able to stay here.
Psychotherapy.
Buying my beautiful flat.
Being fired from a job that paid ££££ but made me miserable.
Like others, realising that I am not responsible for my parents' decisions.

Hiring a cleaner. DH and I used to have the odd argument over cleaning but now someone takes care of it and it's bloody bliss. All for the price of £30 a fortnight

DH, DS, my Dad dying, giving up work, learning not to give a shit, and my cats.

I don't have anything to post yet, things a bit difficult, but I have loved this thread.

Thank you Four, today I start here:

Becoming a nicer person. A couple of years ago, I decided to try the following:

If you think something positive about someone, tell them.
If you think something negative about someone, keep it to yourself and mentally throw it away.

Having children - they made me see the world differently.

Finding a treatment for my endometriosis that actually works for me - living with chronic pain was exhausting.

The expression "comparison is the thief of joy"

DS and realising each day doesn't have to be filled with activities, visits etc. We are having a 'down' day today with a bit of gardening, a walk and some baking planned. He's xboxing at the moment and I'm mning. Bliss.

Moving to a cottage in the country.

Leaving a horrible job. Will never earn the same and new job has it's stresses but I feel valued and that is priceless.

I misread 'amazing nanny' and felt jealous of pp with 'amazing fanny'. I think laser eye surgery might be a good idea for me...

The 5:2 changed me too but not in a good way . Pleased it's worked for others though.

Two key things really:

Taking up a certain sport at uni - gave me an amazing experience competing and training and a whole group of tight knit friends who are still the ones I hang out with today some 10 years later. It also shaped me as a person, gave me a lot of confidence in who I am and I did a lot of growing up with those people.

Same as you MackerelOfFact - moving to London changed my life for the better in a big way. Much better social life, more exercise, more eating out, more fun in general.

Antipsychotics

Leaving my ex husband and finding my DP which all happened within a few months of each other after a very unhappy marriage.

DP and I have been together nearly 4 years now, I've moved cities, got a new job and we are buying our first place together.

Leaving xh
Meeting DP
Finding current job
Moving away
Quitting smoking
Eating healthily & exercising

Realising all the ways that I sabotage my own self-worth, constantly, incessantly. Learning to try and catch myself doing it.

Love this thread- interesting reading.

Going NC with possibly borderline / PD mother

Letting go of feelings of fear / obligation / guilt from the above

Prozac

Having life saving surgery

being grateful for the above.

DCs

DH

Being a bit less poor than when I was a child, possibly.

Having had chance to go to Uni as a teen through having a grant

Another vote for Jesus- and also for my DC and husband.
And my cleaning lady. Honestly. She is a star.

Meeting DH. In 25 years together I have never stopped falling in love with him. He's gorgeous, smart, generous, funny and very exciting to be with. He makes me feel very, very loved and he worships our DDs.

Our DDs. I don't think we have been amazing parents, at all. But some how we have raised two amazing DDs. They're easy going, funny, smart, hardworking and really good company. We've never had to deal with any rudeness, thoughtlessness or any worrying behaviour from either of them. We are very lucky.

Bespoke HRT treatment. Had to go to Harley Street and pay £££££s for it, but it has turned my life around. I have gone from suffering insomnia, achy joints, dry skin and hair, and bloated middle aged spread...to sleeping 8hrs a night, getting my waist line back, silky soft skin and hair and feeling 35 again

What an interesting thread. Here are mine in chronological order:

Living in France for a year
Meeting DH
Giving up alcohol
Taking voluntary redundancy and leaving the rat race behind
My parents getting divorced
Having DD
Finally being diagnosed with lupus and finding medication which works
Vitamin D
Agnus Castus

My faith in God
My amazing dh- truly the nicest person I have ever met.
My dcs
MN- I have learned so much