To wonder if you can compromise what your family needs with what you want?

[freshcutroses]

Sorry if this makes no sense.

We have three young children. I do a small amount of paid work, but it's minimal and I'm mostly a SAHM. DH feels it's best for the children to have a parent at home.

I want to retrain. DH says I can but to wait until our youngest is at secondary school. I don't want to wait that long but AIBU? He thinks that I am.

Mitel is talking utter crap - ignore.

This is your life OP, you only get one go at it - you shouldn't have to wait for 15 years before starting to do what is right for you. I suspect your DH is anti because it will impact on his cosy, ordered life and he will have to contribute more than money to the family.

I wish you the very best whatever you decide to do. Go for it!

Yes, Rorty has said what I was thinking!