AIBU to be annoyed by my friend's lack of charitableness?

[SunFlower222]

My friend is pregnant and therefore having a clear out to make room for new baby and doing some nesting...like you do.
She's been trying to sell her old baby things (she has 2 girls, she's now having a boy) on facebook selling pages since April, along with some household bits and bobs. A few things have sold but most of it hasn't.
Every week she's reposting it, still no interest in much of it.
She's not strapped for cash, they're quite comfortable, she doesn't NEED £3 for a baby dress that she bought for £8 9 years ago.
I don't get the mentality, I'd rather just get rid of stuff and give it to a friend who's had a baby or to a charity shop or to a women's charity.
I've never sold any of my old baby stuff and I just don't think I could ever bring myself to ask someone for money for something that's been puked on by my baby and then stored in the loft for 8 years.
I appreciate that to her the stuff has value but surely after advertising the stuff for THREE MONTHS and still no takers, you would just donate it to a good cause?

I would only be bothered with the faff of selling old baby things on ebay/Gumtree if we really needed the money enough to devote the time to it. A very good local charity that has a specific children's clothes/toys/equipment shop is picking up from us this week an unused toddler bed with mattress and bedding, an almost new bedside cot, a Bugaboo Bee in excellent condition with newborn cocoon and all the accessories, and a bunch of baby bouncers/chairs, plus some unworn baby clothes. I'm not sure it's generous, tbh. I'm very pleased to be able to help out a good charity, but I really don't have time to list things etc.

I have a friend like this. She tries to sell everything on Facebook even the smallest most insignificant items and broken items that no one wants to buy. You see her posting the same things over and over again. I don't mind people selling stuff to raise a bit of cash and I have a few larger toys I'm planning to sell but if no one wants to buy your stuff after months just give up and take it to the charity shop!!

It is a bit tragic when you see well off people bumping their £2 items on fb for weeks on end. Don't want it to go to landfill? Charity shop, refuge, refugee project, local playgroup, friends etc.
I did a swap with a friend when we had second children. I got boys clothes for 1-5 and she got girls clothes for 1-5. Saved us both a stack of money. And I donated the good condition stuff to friends and charity when we were done.
I have one friend who's invited me to have a stack of cast offs and I need to invite a mutual friend over for a grab of our cast offs.

For many years I ran a business buying and selling second hand kids clothes. I usually found that the nicer the house and the 'posher' the people, the more they'd expect me to give them for their clothes. And it didn't always follow that the clothes were nicer, often they were worn out things from supermarkets.

I gave most of my baby stuff away. Mind you after being worn by 5 dc's most of it is worthless anyway . People gave us lots of baby stuff for ds1 so it was nice to pay it forward. I've kept the moses basket though, will be nice to see the grandchildren sleeping in it one day when they come to visit (with their parents, just in case anyone was thinking I was planning on being one of those MIL's who try and insist on looking after the gc overnight from very young ).

I am in the US and it is pretty normal to consign all your kid stuff at annual sales. You can opt to donate what you do not sell. Friends typically make 500 quid each sale for a whole 5 years of stuff. I don't expect them to pass stuff to me if they can make a few quid. Fb is great for selling. We do porch pick up here so you leave the money under the doormat. I buy all my kids clothes this way now. Saves us a lot.
Yabu to have such a strong opinion on it. None of your business.
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It's far easier to just bin it surely? I could do without the hassle!

Foolscapped would you mind telling me where this charity shop is? If it's near me I might go look at your Bee. I bought one on Facebook and it was described as very good condition, it wasn't, she hadn't even bothered to clean it before sending it! I bought 2nd hand as we couldn't afford new but I did expect clean.

I passed on tons of stuff to a family new to the area who I met and were saying they were really poor.
Found out months later that everything they received got put on ebay!!
Sort of puts you off helping and I now prefer to donate to charity ( and to be honest I could do with the money) see it as payback for tones when I've needed stuff in the past whatever that may be and was helped.

Sorry fat fingers here! Times I meant :)

I have a friend who sold stuff I gave her .... it's shameless imo. She is considerably better off than I am.

I agree with you OP. I know someone else who sells clothes on FB all the time, she is very wealthy but asks for 50p for a baby sleep suit. I couldn't be bothered with the faff unless I really needed the money and would rather take it to the charity shop.

YANBU.

Selling bigger items, or good quality clothes makes sense, but 50p for an old baby sleep suit?

I'm glad that people do take the trouble to sell bundles of baby clothes as buying bundles from Facebook groups is how I got a good proportion of my baby's clothes. It's a lot easier than poking round charity shops for individual bits and pieces. And they all tend to be in a similar style so you can find a set of things you like. It saves the clothes going for rags or landfill, it saves energy/materials making new baby clothes I didn't have to buy, it saved me money. Quite charitable really!

No yanbu, some people don't seem to even think of giving to others, it's just habit to hold onto everything that is 'theirs'..... If everyone in the world thought "I have enough so now how can I help the person next to me" we would have no poverty or hunger.

YABU
Personally I can't be bothered with the faff of selling and do give to charity shops, or give away. I'm about to free-cycle some stuff (baby bouncer anyone?). But it's up to your friend. I enjoy having friends who have different opinions to me about lots of things, why is this any different? You sound a bit controlling to me, if she want to do it then accept you are different about this and move on.

This thread just encapsulates MN hypocrisy! Posters saying the OP should mind her own business when several of them pile into the 'FB shite' threads to laugh at the junk people try and offload on FB selling pages!

It's far easier to just bin it surely? I could do without the hassle! yes lets just bin everything, who cares about the extra landfill

I think fair play to anyone who resells their old stuff. Why is that money any different to any money you earn? Wait a minute, it's worth a lot more than any money you earn because it's not taxed (especially for people paying top rate tax on earnings)! So more fool the people who are critical of people selling their old stuff.

People who keep trying to flog the same item that is taking selling can be annoying I agree.

....that is NOT selling....