To think life can be so cruel and unkind to some people for no reason?

[XrayDepartment]

I'm really struggling today.

Ive had my fair share of crap in life just like anyone else really. But sometimes, I do feel like life can and is more cruel to some than it is to others.

Of course, I am not wishing other people to go through difficulties but it all just seems so cruel. I know I am sounding really entitled and envious but I am only human and there is only so much I can cope with.

I'm just having a rant, really. So others feel the same sometimes?

[Babieseverywhere]

Tothesideoftheirlives
Is it this cartoon you were thinking of ?

[OutwiththeOutCrowd]

What a thoughtful and sensitive cartoon - thanks for posting it. It's actually brought a tear to my eye!

[tothesideoftheirlives]

Yes, yes babies that's it. It is brilliant and I will now save the link

[Haudyerwheesht]

We've had a really shit year and I am prone to mental health issues since having kids but I have sort of looked around me and noticed that other people who I think'have it easy' actually don't always but they just deal with it differently and I know that has its limits obviously but it's made me reassess how I look at things.

I have had an immediate family bereavement and it's been very hard but I found myself sinking into 'oh that happened and so did this and this and this' but I've learnt to separate them. They don't need grouped together iyswim?

I'm not sure I'm making any sense and I know I have it much easier so far in life than a lot of other people (and also much harder than other people) but I am kind of letting it not all build up. I'm trying to deal with one catastrophe on its own merit ?

[XrayDepartment]

That cartoon sums up beautifully how I feel. It's just shit for some and not so much for others.

Ive had a much better day today. I think when I am busy I dont have time to think about things! I try to take each day as it comes and not look too much into the future which is when i feel really down about things.

🌼 For everyone going through struggles.

[InionEile]

I really enjoyed that book 'Outliers' too Outwith. It really changed my view on what it means to be successful and how engrained the illusion of meritocracy is in society. You really need superhuman strength to overcome some obstacles in life. I think a person who grew up in an unstable, poor family with no support who has managed to form their own stable family and keep a job and live a normal life deserves as much celebrating as someone from a privileged background who has achieved something outstanding in their career.

Glad you have had a better day today, X-ray.

[MarieMorgan]

Not a fan of Gladwell. His comment re 'who makes it and who doesn't' is just annoying. What is so great about getting to the top rung or 'making it'. Does that make people any happier? What about those who don't 'make it' (whatever he means by that). Are their lives worthless?

[Clandestino]

Sometimes the shit that happens isn't just something that makes you stronger. It can break you and there's nothing wrong with that and doesn't make you a bad or weak person.
I hate the motivational crap. It puts lots of pressure on people in need of help because it tells them they are weak and not fighting enough when they simply can't face another day of living.

[OutwiththeOutCrowd]

Marie I agree that Gladwell has concentrated on quite a narrow definition of success - what you might call 'worldly' success. People have all sorts of ideas about what success in life entails, and rightly so.

But even if you think in terms of it meaning being fulfilled or doing something that is meaningful from your own perspective in a more general sense, as I do, I still feel that he has a good point in his recognition that society and circumstance contribute as much as individual qualities to the way a person's life pans out.

[ssd]

I'm sorry op. Life can be so shit and unfair.

[AnythingGoesWithMe]

Don't forget that some people are very good at hiding their problems.
On the surface I appear to be one of those people who swan through life. I have a nice house, good job, a child, another on the way etc.
However unless you were a very very close friend then you don't know who died to fund my house, the mc's I had, the significant health problems that exist in my family etc.
What I'm trying to say is that it can be easier to accept that this is what is happening in your life. And deal with it accordingly. Don't try and compare it to other peoples lives as you just don't know.

[Ivorbig1]

Sorry you are struggling.
Sometimes I think it's perfect ok to have a bloody good moan, life is a bit of shit at times.
Nothing to do with what you have or how lucky you should consider yourself otherwise those with a shit tonne of money would have no problems.

[Chipsahoy]

It's tough isn't it? But I agree with pp, plenty of people are simply hiding it. My work colleagues often say how lucky I am, what a nice life i have because I have a nice home, car,children, husband and work just a few hrs every day. They don't know that I can't work anymore cos I have mental health issues stemming from a horrific childhood. Everyday living in this world is scary for me.

Life is hard for a lot of people, we just hide it well.

[IceBeing]

Life is fabulously unfair and anyone who thinks if you try hard enough you can achieve your dreams has their head stuck firmly up their backside.

It is horrible for people who try and can't make it no matter what they do when people who have indeed worked for their success but have no conception of the underlying privilege they enabled their work to be converted to success tell them that anything is possible.

[amandaxalice]

I can definitely relate, it sometimes feels like other people go through life so easily without any hurdles and there's me lagging behind. But then I try to remember you never really know what goes in people's life behind closed doors.