About people who check into hospitals on Facebook?

[MintyChapstick]

Does anyone else think this is the most attention seeking thing ever? I see it a lot statuses saying things like 'ouch' and a tag to th A and E department of our local hospital? Cue lots of 'u OK Hun?' type messages, sometimes they respond, sometimes they don't. I've got one on my feed this morning, 'In admissions, nil by mouth' with a tag to the local hospital. Lots of comments asking what's wrong, no response but she's managed to share and like lots of other things since she's been admitted... Never mind though, she's got the attention she so desperately seems to crave

I know people are going to say that they can use Facebook as they please, but surely as well attention seeking sharing stuff like that will cause worry to family and friends who can see it and won't know what's wrong?

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

If you were sat there on your phone on FB effectively ignoring him that wouldn't have been too supportive

You can do both
There are some people who have phone addictions and stick their heads in them for hours on end
Most of us though can give it a quick check in between doing exactly the things that people with their faces equally in MN say they should be doing instead of facebook

Last time I was in with one of my DDs she fell asleep from the shock of it all. I was sat there for hours, didn't even want to leave her for a min to go to the loo etc, but it was boring.. that time in between "looks fine now, but we'll keep her in for a few more hours just to observe" and actually going home

• it's not all like casualty, action and emotions from admission to discharge. Lots of it is dull waiting about

[Farfromtheusual]

It's my absolute per peeve.. Seirously, what is the need? You just text whoever needs to know, close family and friends etc, you don't need the whole of Facebook knowing. Definitely an attention seeking move. And the not replying to comments or replying "I'll pm you" are just ridiculous, if you're not prepared to answer what's wrong then why post in the first place??
I had someone on my Facebook who had to go into hospital every other day for monitoring during her pregnancy and no lie she would check in every single time... Drove me mad so needless to say she was hidden from my timeline.

[karmapolice97]

Totally agree! I saw one of these a few weeka ago - baby and parent in gowns, all looked scary, cue lots of people posting worried comments. Person managed to post lots of other random stuff on fb for hours but didn't update until ages later that actually her DS was just having tongue tie cut. No way she hadnt seen all the concerned comments. Really lowered my opinion of her.

[Stratter5]

Tough shit. I post, I'm finding it fucking difficult to come to terms with the massive change in lifestyle, and I find the support really helpful.

You could always hide the post.

[SpaceUnicorn]

It's a quick way to let people know where you are and that you are alright or not alright just in case you have to switch your phone off they will perhaps wonder if you might need assistance

It's not letting people know that you're ok if it's a hospital check-in with no further information about being ok or otherwise.

[Bambamrubblesmum]

Last time I was in hospital the amount of people sat on their phones with frightened looking children beside them made me There was a play area with books and toys available to keep their minds off it but no apparently checking a phone was much more important. You're never going to persuade me that was necessary.

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

Last time I was in hospital the amount of people sat on their phones with frightened looking children beside them made me

Why knows! Maybe they were busy sending and replying to individual texts to all their close family and friends as posters here says they would, and one should, instead of doing one quick general status??

[karmapolice97]

Just to add, I think facebook can be a really useful way to update everyone about something as it can save you having to make lots of individual contact at an already difficult time and get an important message out there efficiently. Completely different to attention seeking nonsense like I outlined in my previous post.

[Bambamrubblesmum]

Adulting surely your immediate problem should be looking after your child not updating the world .

It doesn't take hours to update everyone and non stop. Sorry not buying it. But realise I've gone off on a bit of a tangent bug bear of mine

[Muskateersmummy]

The notion that if you are well enough to update Facebook you are well enough to not be in hospital is a strange one in my opinion. The times I have been admitted to hospital I have been more than well enough to update fb. First time was regular hospital admittances when pregnant with dd. The contact from friends and family whilst waiting for bleeding to stop was a welcome relief and distraction. Then once she was born prematurely I was in hospital with her but not allowed to be with her constantly, again fb was a nice distraction at times and offered support. With a broken back, I was well enough to fb (once allowed to sit up a bit!) but not able to go home until the severity of the break establish and then potentially not until a brace had been fitted which could have been up to 4 days.

Vague booking whilst in a and e, yep silly and annoying. But posting whilst in hospital not unacceptable to me.

[DoWhat123]

Annoys me and comes off as attention seeking as it's usually the same people with some cryptic message involved.

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

Adulting surely your immediate problem should be looking after your child not updating the world confused.

well, I have more than one child, so there'll be people waiting to hear what's happening re whether they still need to pick up other child or have them over night etc etc.. this usually involes more than one person, there'll usually be a few people waiting "on call" to see if we're staying in or not.

And the DD usually won't want me right up in their face for the whole 7 hours or whatever it is anyway. Being there for them doesn't mean never picking up a magazine or phone!

[VioletVaccine]

Someone I know posted a selfie in an ambulance, with just a Sad Face emoji, but not a hint of why she was in the ambulance.

Cue a stream of messages asking, "What's up hun?" and "Are you okay?!"...
The reply was, "I'll pm you" because I really value my privacy

The same people also tend to hashtag their photos with pretentious quotes

I Hide a lot of them, but keep some just so I can moan about them just for the irritating entertainment at their rampant narcissism!

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

What do they think they would be doing? Genuine, not sarky question

Thats exactly what I'm wondering, what can you do?
Except sit. And wait. and worry..

[Surferjet]

Yanbu - I guess it's this 'I'm so important everyone needs to know my every move' culture that social media has created. We all think we're minor celebs now, & updating our 300 F/B 'friends' that we're on our way to A&E with a fractured ankle, is of course, vital.
Dignity & class has been replaced by vulgarity.

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

people used to know each others business in the past, we used to live in more cohesive communities. It wasn't better - there was a dark side to it, but it was the norm way way before facebook for your neighbours/aquaintances to know your business without you having to tell them

we don't really have that community grapevine any more for the most part, but we have Facebook. The end result isn't a new thing though

[Tabsicle]

Hospital is very dull and features a lot of waiting. Plus it's not actually the most chatty of places, what with everyone else around.

Last time DH and I were in there, we wound up playing online connect four, while he was hooked up to the monitors. I didn't update FB but I guarantee I wasn't doing anything more important.

[Notso]

The ones that annoy me are the ones moaning about the wait they are having in A and E when they are there for something they don't need to be there for.

SIL had a massive ranty post about having to go home with 'seriously ill' (she had D and V) DN or wait 5 hours on a Friday night, because of time wasters.
9:30 the next morning there were photos of DN in Clarkes getting new shoes.

[Tabsicle]

Also, if you don't want to read about anyone's life on FB, then come off FB, and stop worrying about it. But it always seems to me that going on a site where people talk about themselves and then complaining when they...ummm....talk about themselves is a bit of a waste of energy.

[AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected]

should we also not jump at the offer of an over stewed cup of tea and sandwich too (whether hungry or not, it's just exciting to have something ordinary to do!) becaues we should be constantly reassuring our child? (still unsure what that means)