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To think my husband did this on purpose!

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Lovewatchingrainfall · 16/07/2016 18:49

So my DH was speaking to someone at work the other day and mentioned to him about how he should bleach the washing machine due to germs etc.

So he decides to do a wash before he goes to work and adds bleach the picture shows the mess I walk into.

Aibu to ban him from ever using the machine again and expect some form of flowers or something for having to clean it up more then once!!!

To think my husband did this on purpose!

OP posts:

diddl · 16/07/2016 20:02

Teach him?

He's an adult he can find out for himself?

How has he got to adulthood without knowing how to use a washing machine?

There aren't clothes in as well, are there?

EverythingWillBeFine · 16/07/2016 20:08

I would have just mopped around the washing machine lef the rest for him to sort out.

And I do sometimes run a cycle with bleach. It doesn't do that. How much bleach has he put in and what else did he put in the cycle (I guess some washing powder....)

Goingtobeawesome · 16/07/2016 20:12

No, you don't need to teach him how to use the washer. He can read. He can work it out for himself my washing just his clothes to start with....no point ruining your clothes.

WorraLiberty · 16/07/2016 20:16

Does he have a germ phobia or something?

Tell him Dettol do a washing machine cleaner. You can buy it in most supermarkets.

PaulDacreCuntyMcCuntFace · 16/07/2016 20:47

I use the Kim & Aggie method for cleaning my machine.

One cup of washing soda crystals straight into the drum. 90 degree wash.
Followed by one cap of white vinegar straight into the drum and back on a 90 degree wash. The soda crystals followed by the vinegar cut through all the crap, kill mould and deodorise the machine as well.

LetMeJustStepOnMySoapbox · 16/07/2016 20:48

You'll teach him?!!

No you won't, I'll send my son round, let him see that 'real men' know how to use the washing machine and do the laundry.

geekymommy · 16/07/2016 21:03

When we make a mess, we clean it up. We ask for help if we need it, but we don't just leave a mess for someone else to clean up. That's what I say to my almost 4yo DD, and it seems apropos here.

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Lovewatchingrainfall · 16/07/2016 21:03

He was very much a mummy's boy. Mummy did everything for him before we moved in together and got married 4 years ago, since then I guess I have just taken over the role and just done the washing ironing etc, he does cook as he is a fantastic cook and does help clean to.
He does have a thing about things being clean.

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geekymommy · 16/07/2016 21:13

I'm not good with domestic stuff. That's why I Google for how to do stuff like this before attempting to do it, and wouldn't leave while it was running. Or he could have asked someone who had done this before.

LetMeJustStepOnMySoapbox · 16/07/2016 21:27

He shouldn't be 'helping' to clean. He should be cleaning.

Hepzibar · 16/07/2016 21:30

Teach him? Are you his mother? How old is he? Can he read yet?

Avonandice · 16/07/2016 21:43

Mine did this with the dishwasher. He filled the tablet holder with bleach and ran it on full cycle. Foam party in the kitchen.

Huldra · 16/07/2016 21:44

He tried something and messed up, we all mess up sometimes and learn from our mistakes. I'm a reasonable cook but aoccasionally mess up dinner, my husband or children have yet to tell me that because I messed up they will take over all future meal cooking My husband messes up the odd meal too. All that happens is we each build up skills to correct future mistakes.

Ok you've had to clear up this time to avoid more probs but just let him know. Then tell him to put it on a few rinse cycles or use the opportunity to wash the tea towels. Then he can google the right amount and temp for the future.

geekymommy · 17/07/2016 01:53

We all mess up, yes. It's what you do then that shows your character. Walking away and leaving the mess for somebody else to clean up isn't generally the right thing to do when you mess up.

NightWanderer · 17/07/2016 02:07

Does the bleach not ruin your clothes?

coffeetasteslikeshit · 17/07/2016 06:48

We all mess up, yes. It's what you do then that shows your character. Walking away and leaving the mess for somebody else to clean up isn't generally the right thing to do when you mess up.

But the poor guy didn't know this would happen did he? Just like plenty of posters on this thread. And he went to work. He didn't just walk away from the mess did he? Have I missed something?

I think it's a mountain about of a molehill. Just tell him what happened, show him the photo, and suggest less bleach next time.

Mommym24 · 17/07/2016 07:03

I think if anything you need to show him how to do it properly. He obviously thought he was soon something good but clearly not! Don't ban him else he may use that as an excuse and try it on other chores to get out of them. Maybe he should do washing more often to learn how to do it

Footle · 17/07/2016 07:05

It's called strategic incompetence, and if he cleaned it up himself it wouldn't qualify as that.

BigDamnNCFail · 17/07/2016 07:15

Back when we were at school and first started dating DH's parents were away and he decided to clean up before they got back. They never used the dishwasher so there were no dishwasher tablets or anything in the house. DH figured he could just use washing up liquid...

Similar result to your DH's bleach and washing machine fail (though, I imagine the bleach smells a lot worse). He said the floor ended up very clean, though.

If he was genuinely trying to just clean the machine and is suitably sorry when you tell him I don't think it's that big a deal.

kmc1111 · 17/07/2016 07:35

I don't get the problem. These things happen. Even if you do everything 'right', sometimes it's just not right for your particular washing machine or dishwasher or whatever. I put bleach in my machine every month or so, always one cap's worth. 9 times out of 10 it works perfectly, every so often this happens.

People are acting like he saw it happening and ran off down the pub so he wouldn't have to deal with it. He's at work and doesn't know there's a problem. OP has floorboards so leaving the mess for hours for him to clean up could create a much worse problem to deal with.

Why would he do this on purpose? To get out of the at most monthly task of running bleach through the machine, a task he and he alone decided to do?

Marmite27 · 17/07/2016 07:41

My DH put bleach in the dishwasher to similar effect I still make him load/empty it though.

He's never done it again.

Newmanwannabe · 17/07/2016 07:51

Well at least you have no germs anymore!!!

RoseDeGambrinus · 17/07/2016 08:02

Washing machines do get skanky if you wash at environmentally friendly 30 / 40 degrees and especially if you use liquid detergent. I think calling it strategic incompetence is harsh - someone might be an expert clothes-washer and not realise bleach would do that! I wouldn't have realised.

Gabilan · 17/07/2016 14:02

Well I'm currently trying the Kim and Aggie method described above. If I end up with a clean floor as well as a clean machine, bonus.

PaulDacreCuntyMcCuntFace · 17/07/2016 15:14

I've never had a foam-catastrophe from it Gabilan! I do mine about once a quarter.

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