AIBU to not want Doctor BIL's professional advice?

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Just want to get some perspective here.

Have recently had some health ups and downs resulting in a stay in hospital. Dr BIL now wants to question me on every aspect of my case so that he can give me "lifestyle advice. "

During recent family gathering, DH and MIL "helpfully" answered his questions as I sat in silence bloody seething.

I've never asked his professional advice before and really just don't want to discuss it with him. Have tried laughing off /ignoring his "interviews" but he's clearly not getting it.

WIBU to just blurt it out for him to mind his own bloody business?

"He should be fully aware (as any professional in a field where this is usual) that boundries are perticulally important in these situations, he runs the risk of giving incorrect advice based on not having full access to the required information with no protection to the person he is advising as well as being more likely to allow personal feelings to impact on the advice he does give.

He should know full well that the advice he gives has almost no value at all unless that advice comes with full access to the medical history."

That is presumably why the BIL has made a point of saying he "wants to question me on every aspect of my case".

I'm not saying that what this guy is doing is correct. But I also struggle to believe that he is at home, twirling his moustache and plotting to ruin the OP's life with his unwanted professional advice.

He clearly thinks he is helping. And yes, the OP could bottle up her feelings and then explode, or she could say something reasonably and not cause unnecessary awkwardness.

Don't feel bad about not being assertive so far, when you have a medical condition it can affect your confidence and it is not easy to immediately change your lifestyle. When you do tell him or dh you don't want to discuss it, make it simple and clear. Saying I don't want to bore you or it's complicated is not clear enough as he might respond with 'not at all' and carry on.

Your do needs to shut up and respect your privacy, not discuss it with his family, GP or no GP.
I'd be bloody furious. I actually don't discuss my health with a my DH because he can't keep his mouth shut, unless it's absolutely necessary.

DH not do*

Stupid to suggest that you should just "not be rude" - as said above, illness makes you vulnerable...

some great suggestions already, here is mine:
"i think what I'll do is definitely follow up on that with my doctor, thanks Bob I appreciate your concern"
keep saying that if he says anything else. Practise it!

Thanks all for your views.

DH swears blind they'd not talked beforehand although he "didn't really think anything of" his brother's questioning. Apparently he was helpfully filling in the gaps because I was busy avoiding the 3rd degree sorting the food and drinks.

Also didn't occur to DH that I'd mind as he's heard me on the phone talking about my hospital stay and illness with my sister

He's now on side and has promised to shut them down if it happens again. BIL is far older than us (16 years older than DH, 20 yrs on me) and I do find myself relating to him like an uncle rather than BIL.

My dh is a health professional. He has the opposite problem. No one in his family will take medical advice or medication prescribed until they have run it by him first. He would rather not be involved and usually says follow all doctors instructions and adds a little more to keep them happy. But he would never instigate the conversation and it actually suits him better to keep things separate. Unfortunately your bil needs this spelt out to him as is lacking in cop.