Bullies parents

[MermaidTears]

MermaidTears

Just wanted to ask if anyone has ever actually confronted their child's bullies parents, and if so did any good come of it? After my fifth time being called up the school to be informed of this kid bullying my DD (now escalated into stamping on her lower back after pushing her to the ground at lunchtime) I have understandably gone absolutely ape shit at the head teacher and threatened to confront the parents. He looked aghast and claimed no good would come of it and to let him deal with it. I said, well you haven't shown my in any way it's being dealt with, in fact it's got much worse. Fuming on my poor DD behalf. What should I do, put my faith in the school or drop kick the mum in the face at home time? (Only half joking there hmm ). I have reached breaking point. Thanks in advance.

One of my friends works in our LA safeguarding team and I can assure you that they would take your concerns seriously. They would visit the school with you.

Please contact them.

From personal experience I don't think contacting the parents is a good idea. Going though official channels will mean that the school has to take action.

If the dad has been told and is still buying the kid ice cream straight afterwards then I doubt it will do any good speaking with him. I would go to the police.

I'd also ask the head teacher what he would do if he was being strangled and stamped on by another teacher because it is exactly the same. No child should go to school fearful of being hit, we would not accept this at a workplace from our peers and we should not accept it for our children.

Ditto to what starry said too. If my child was bullying you can be sure it would be dealt with at home with very harsh punishment and I would be devastated and horrified to hear he had been involved with bullying.

OP, I am sorry you are going through this.

Dd was bullied. The school was rubbish at dealing with it. We moved her. The bully was then moved from the school to dds new school.

Within 6 months police charged him with assault. The police were called by us. Thy didn't warn him or chat with him first. They Charged him.

I didn't confront the parents. The entire time this has been going off the mothers only response was that her son was entitled to an education and she couldn't do anything about his behaviour.

The reason I didn't confront either parents is because I didn't trust myself to punch them in the face.

He made another attempt to hurt my Dd at secondary, earlier this year, the head of year and school police officer took him and his parents in and told them that if he went near her, spoke to her or upset her again further charges would be brought. He has left her alone although is taught in seclusion due to the fact that he has attacked other pupils.

I made sure I kept calm and everything above board as I don't want them turning thins round and saying my behaviour was unacceptable.