To be gobsmacked at the sheer selfishness of this

[witchofzog]

Oldest dsd is 20. She has form for wanting her parents to run around after her. For example a couple of years ago dp and I missed out on plans we had made for a day trip on our anniversary because dsd wanted a lift to the next village and "doesn't like the bus"

Stern words with dp were had and he has tried to stick to put plans if prearranged now.

Fast forward to this week. Dsd has been to a festival involving quite a long train journey on her own as she was meeting friends there. The final leg on the way home is 30 mins from the nearest city to our town but with a 45 minute wait for to connections. At 8pm. The same night its our anniversary again and we are going for a meal. She text me

"Can you ask if dad can come and pick me up"(from the city station 40 mins drive at least each way)

My reply was

"Sorry lovely. It's our anniversary tonight and we are going for a meal. Looking forward to hearing all about the festival though soon"

She texts back "please. I have to wait 45 minutes"

I reiterated no. We are going for a meal in the opposite direction but she could go to the McDonald's at the station to kill time if she wanted to be somewhere warm.

She then proceeded to phone her dad. No reference to the fact that I had already said no. It's not fair. She is tired and cannot wait 45 mins. Her parents are out of order (her mum had also said no) etc etc

Dp stood his ground this time and we went for our meal. But seriously. She is 20. When I was her age I was totally independent. And if someone was going out for an anniversary meal I would not keep badgering them into coming to get me instead.

She insists even now a few days later that she was the wronged party. Surely she can't be serious?

Sorry, I should have made it clear that she asked before she had arrived at the city station. About an hour and a half so if it had gone the way she wanted she would have had dad's taxi ready and waiting.

She didn't give us a card and to be honest I would not have expected that. She did reluctantly say have a nice time but then gave it to her dad over the phone with both barrels saying she is fed up, tired, it's not fair etc. It made us a little late but at least we still went for the meal 😊

DP has definitely mollycoddled her. Her mum doesn't saying she is an adult now and needs to sort herself out. I have raised it with Dp a few times as the youngest is very spoilt and he makes it worse by never saying no (the middle one is very reasonable and not spoilt ) but it falls on deaf ears. He has got a bit better of late though.

She sounds awful, and a lot like my brother who is a whopping 37 years old!!! Sometimes my parents want their heads banging together, the amount they run around after him, clearing up after his numerous disasters.
Stick to your guns OP. She's too daft to realise it right now but you're doing her a favour by saying no.