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To be mad about the school photo

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ChunkyMonkey4321 · 12/07/2016 15:51

DS is in reception. They were supposed to be sent home with proofs for their school photo but he didn't get is. When we asked where his proof was so we could order the photo, teacher got a bit snippy 'I put all of them in the bag myself' but then I saw a copy in the classroom and he wasn't in it.

'well he wasn't here then obviously, that's why he didn't get a form.'

Except he was at school, which a quick look at the register confirmed. Turns out they were doing some fancy photo where they take pictures of small groups and then merge them together later when they're editing it. DS got forgotten about so isn't in the picture.

I called because I was worried that he'd gone missing or something and they hadn't let me know - but no they'd just forgot him. Now the photo company has photoshopped his individual school photo onto the class photo.

Would anyone else be annoyed about this or just me?

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user1468330875 · 13/07/2016 17:22

Go back to the system of having all the kids sit together for their class photo, that's what I say!!

ipsogenix · 13/07/2016 17:34

I can't see why they wouldn't just take the whole class photo together. That would make much more sense. Very odd to have it photoshopped at all.

Beeziekn33ze · 13/07/2016 17:39

Definitely , Witchend and Usernumbers. Does anyone actually like these stagily posed, faux informal class photos? What was wrong with a row of chairs and a bench? Chins up, say 'tennis' 'cheese' or whatever and it's done?

MrsJoeyMaynard · 13/07/2016 18:10

That does sound annoying.

DS1's class photo this year is the more traditional style where the class are in rows, one row sat on ground, one sat on benches, last row stood behind benches. All children clearly visible (although not all smiling).

It's got to be much harder to miss a child out from photos entirely with that style of photo.

Alanna1 · 14/07/2016 18:36

I've been photoshopped into quite a few photos in my life - tell your DC that it's a sign he's important!!

Lovingit81 · 14/07/2016 19:11

Id kick up a serious fuss about this!!! Really out of order. I hate Photoshopping things like school photos it's important for them to show how it is. Boo!!

ABunchOfCups · 14/07/2016 19:55

Dds school do individual photos just before Xmas, and then they have group class photos taken in the summer, the children are outside on benches etc. I only bought the last y6 one and that's for dd as a keepsake.

Her first individual one was in preschool, lots of people didn't buy them as they'd only been attending a few weeks and many of the children still were struggling to settle and crying at drop off. Photographer was there at 9.15 and as dd is top of alphabet she was first.

It's an awful photo that makes me feel guilty whenever I come across the proof thing. I'm not pfb at all, but her little face in that picture is water filled eyes, shakey lip like she's trying to be brave and not cry while thinking "you can keep your fucking puppet, I want my MUMMMMMYYYY!" Wasn't parting with £20 for that.:)

clam · 14/07/2016 20:18

I can't believe the teacher was so unprofessional.

WTF? Why's it her fault? We have these wretched things every year and the photographers organise it all. My job is to take them to the hall, and discourage too much noise. Groups are donepresumably not where he'd been told to sit, then it's just an unfortunate mistake on his part.

I'd kick up a serious fuss about this!!! What's the point of that? There's precious little anything can be done about it now beyond what's already been done, which is to photoshop him in.

Not that instant defensive response.
If you had any IDEA about how much shit teachers have thrown at them these days, particularly at this time of year, you might understand her reaction.

swelchphr · 14/07/2016 20:55

YANBU - What a sad start to being a new kid in the class.

LaraCroftInDisguise · 14/07/2016 21:48

I'd be annoyed too.

However, I don't buy the class photos because the school does these ridiculous new style photoshopped shit style photos. I hate them, can you tell?

I much prefer the old style where they all go to the hall and then sit/stand on benches.

edwinbear · 14/07/2016 21:57

Dozens of groups of small children in various groups being called/not called, hanging around fidgeting, needing a wee, a drink, keeping record of who is in which group and who has been up/not up sounds utterly exhausting. How can that be a better system than having them on benches, together in the gym?

OP YADNBU. I'd be cross at an oversight like that too.

AndroidAddict · 14/07/2016 22:18

I prefer the modern, more relaxed style school photos tbh! The ones where you have the whole class together in lines going from smallest to tallest ate a right pita to organise. One year I had to put the children in height order and walk then down to the hall, making sure they started in their places and didn't muddle up only for the photographer to rearrange them when we got there! They also have to take loads of shots too to ensure they have everyone with their eyes open, looking at the camera, not lifting up or fidgeting with their clothes, not moving etc etc. The modern ones where they are done in small groups are so much quicker and easier to organise: 4-5 children at a time, more space for them to stand it sit, the photographer or their assistant can talk to and engage them more easily and it just seems more relaxed and friendly.

Anyway, I would have been more worried about where he was and how he could have been 'lost' but that seems to have been explained quite well. There's not really a great deal else that can be done and kicking up a fuss isn't going to really get you any further.

Hollimum · 14/07/2016 22:44

What happened in the op happened to my dd last year in reception. I wasn't really that bothered. My daughter couldn't have cared less, but she is autistic. Just get one next year if you like class photos. Hardly the end of the world.

MoreMusicPlease · 14/07/2016 23:02

When the photo is taken in this way I can see how someone would easily get missed - annoying that it was your DC, but nothing to make a fuss about IMO. I'd be more annoyed that it seems the teacher purposely didn't give you a photo proof when they realised your DC wasn't in it, rather than sorting it out, otherwise it's a huge coincidence that he got missed out twice. Again, I wouldn't make a fuss about it, as what would you gain, but I wouldn't forget it either.

strawberryshortcakescat · 14/07/2016 23:27

I am a T.A nd got missed off our class photo and had to be photoshopped.
In my defence I wasn't messing about I was sorting the kids out who weren't standing where they were supposed to be, and just got left out.

Missing a child off would be easy done.
He might not have wanted his photograph taken. Some children don't do they?
It's like herding cats sometimes at that age!

Deb2915 · 15/07/2016 09:21

I'd be annoyed and actually quite worried that they missed him out. If they did small group photos surely they would of known how many children were in each group and should of noticed your son wasn't in either group. How can they forget about a child in their care?

I'm glad you finally got him in the photo, even if it has been photoshopped.

pollymere · 15/07/2016 16:41

The teachers at our school were responsible for ensuring that everyone was in the photo and also checking proofs. And she also claims to have put it in the bag so essentially lying as well!

clam · 15/07/2016 16:43

Some of you clearly have no idea of what life is like in the average classroom. Worried? What on earth for? He wasn't exactly lost; he sat down in the wrong place, probably with those who'd already been photographed, and it was assumed he'd been done too. Nothing to panic about. Just annoying, that's all.

Whilst your own child features massively in your own priorities at home, when you have just one or two to watch, it's hugely different in school, when there are 30 children to manage, all of whom are just as important as yours.

clam · 15/07/2016 16:46

And she also claims to have put it in the bag so essentially lying as well!

Oh ffs! Lying? She obviously thought she had - and maybe she muddled it up with all the other crap we're expected to ensure gets delivered, like party invitations, holiday play-schemes, reading challenges and so forth, all at the same time she's trying to supervise 30 five year olds and make sure they go home with the right person.

iMogster · 17/07/2016 19:08

At my son's nursery, they always take a photo of everyone on their last day, with the leaving child in the middle.
On my son's last day they gave me the leaving card and it had everyone in except him! I asked where he was. Maybe he was in the toilet, can't remember, was the reply!
I don't expect a card, but if they're doing it they might as well do it properly!

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