to beat myself up for this reeeeally mean comment?

[YesAnastasia]

We were watching GOT and there's a man in it that I fancy like crazy, at one point this man turns around & his face has changed completely.

I said:
'He reminded me of you when we first met before he turned around, if that WERE you he'd have turned around & been bald with glasses.'

He never makes me feel good and in that show there are beautiful naked women everywhere & I think because it makes me feel conscious of my own approaching 40, fat, pregnancy & surgery scarred body (& I can see DH enjoying the sights) I was spiteful.

I've really upset him.

[TheNaze73]

I think you just need to apologise. If it had been reversed, you know how you'd be feeling? Just nip orbit the bud

[TheNaze73]

It not orbit x

[YesAnastasia]

owllady No, I think Harry Hill might've found it funny.

acasualobserver At least he didn't reply, "You're no Mother of Dragons yourself, love." I WOULD HAVE LAUGHED!!!

[MunchCrunch01]

at least you compared him to someone good looking! Seriously, you have to grovel, groveeeel! I do understand, I've said horrible things when I've felt hurt, as has my DH to me for the same reason, doesn't mean it's right or mature though. You can explain, but you can't take it back.

[branofthemist]

Oh dear. Apologise and be very nice to him.

If he had said similar to you about one of the women, as a joke, how would you want him to make it up to?

We have all said something that sounded funny in our head, then goes down like a lead balloon. It happens to all of us.

[Havingkittens04]

ClopySow the OP has admitted that she made a 'reeeeally mean comment' - her glasses comment was vindictive, not just a statement

[Mitel]

That was really mean. You wouldn't like it if he had said the same but said that you were 'an old chubby mess'. You should be grovelling OP.....

[Havingkittens04]

... and following the comment he felt the need to apologise for his poor eyesight, the poor guy

[oldlaundbooth]

FWIW Jaqen H'ghar looks like he would be a right mucky pup in bed.

[SaucyJack]

Valar Age, Lose Their Hair And Eyesightis.

Jaqen is delicious, but if anyone cares to do an advance search- you'll see I staked my claim years ago.

[YesAnastasia]

havingkittens I know, I hate that Like that even matters anyway, I'm blind as a bat too!!! It was a dig because he looks so different now, that's all & it doesn't matter.

oldLaundBooth Doesn't he? That half smile & those eyes...

He's so so gorgeous, but you can keep him SaucyJack - I've got a very sexy husband ;) For now

[Havingkittens04]

YesAnastasia I am extremely sensitive when it comes to this topic as I have a gorgeous three year old DD who wears glasses and it'd break my heart if it ever impacted negatively on her self-esteem, and a 38 year old DH who believes he'd be better looking if only he had hair

I'm glad you feel rotten please share your own insecurities with your DH - I'm sure he'd really appreciate it x

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

You've not only insulted your DH but You have insulted anyone with glasses or eye impairments, as well as those who have conditions that causes them to lose their hair.
Yes you should feel ashamed.

[YesAnastasia]

I have not, it's not a specific hair or glasses complaint, it was pointing out that he looks completely different now. (like we all probably do ) Just like he would if he'd dyed his hair or grown an enormous beard then I would've been reeeally mean about that instead

[NickiFury]

"You've not only insulted your DH but You have insulted anyone with glasses or eye impairments, as well as those who have conditions that causes them to lose their hair. Yes you should feel ashamed."

What utter nonsense