AIBU not to buy birthday presents for daughter.

[Madsien2591]

Her birthday is the week after Christmas which she will be recieving loads of gifts.
We are flying to Disney land for her birthday to have lunch with the Disney princesses and to spend 5 days there.
I decided on no presents but my mum thinks it's unreasonable due to her age ( she will be 3 )

My dad's birthday is a few days after Christmas. He's still bitter about it being overshadowed when he was a child and he's 85 ( lots of relatives gave a Christmas/birthday present and his cake was the remains of the Christmas cake).

Give less at Christmas and wrap some presents in birthday paper. Doesn't have to cost more overall.

My birthday is around christmas too and I also used to hate it being forgotten or disregarded when I was growing up. People would combine presents, or (because it came just after Christmas) would be partied or celebrationed out and so would just forget about it. (My parents included). I found it very hurtful. I like the idea up thread of her having a new party frock to open for her special day with the princesses. It does not have to be a huge gift, but something that shows it is a special day for her alone is a good idea.

Does she have siblings? My brother was born 21st December I'm sure he noticed some people got him joint Xmas and birthday presents whereas our other brother and myself always got separate birthday and Xmas presents. At 3 it doesn't have to be expensive but she shouldn't feel her brothers and sisters are getting special birthdays and she has to share her special day with Xmas

I think the thing is at the age of 3 she won't understand how much the trip to Disneyland cost, but she will be starting to understand that children usually get presents on their birthday. At 3 she won't really understand much about the value of money, so you could always get her just a few things from the pound shop (new colouring books, crayons, reading books) if you couldn't spend much more. At 3 half the fun is in doing the unwrapping anyway. Personally I'd save a few bigger presents that you would have given her for Christmas back for her birthday as well. That way it shouldn't really cost you any more at all.

My dd birthday was last month. I brought her one gift that only cost £10. (something I new she would love and be played with lots). She got a day trip out and meal. I don't like buying many gifts as they won't get played with however always get them a present to open. I like the idea of a princess dress for the meal.

My LG's birthday is just over a week after Christmas and she's 2.5 so exactly the same age as yours I think. We will definitely be buying her presents and making a fuss of her birthday. I already feel sad for her for the future that having this birthday will make it difficult for her to have a party, see her friends etc and that it will be forgotten by everyone. So within the family we will be going all out.

so did you do this every year o rwill u be doing this from now on

how is it your dd fault when she was born

i have a friend with a ds birthday 4 days before xmas-he constantly gets a joint present (from other i might add not his parents) who actually say well its so close he doent need two

poor thing

BarbarianMum are you my sister? :D

I would get her a Disney purse and put x amount to spend.

we travelled to mexico on my daughters birthday so didn't have a lot of money for presents but I got her a case to use on the plane and filled it with little treats that she could use on the journey and on the holiday. What about buying her a new princess outfit to wear while you are there and some new colouring things for the trip, little treats like that can be bought cheaply but add up to a nice set of presents

DD was 2 last week. We bought her a playhouse which we constructed in June. She didnt unwrap anything from us on the day and it was the day after when I remembered we hadnt got her a card.

At this age I dont think your DD would notice so long as she has something from someone to unwrap on the day.

Going a bit against the grain here but my birthday is soon after Christmas and as a child I used to have a token present on the day, and then a "half-birthday" present in June and a summer party. I preferred it that way when I was older.

When very small, it's the joy of having something to unwrap on your birthday that counts, so something that costs very little will be just fine but I would definitely get her something.

I didn't get my ds a present for his third birthday! His party was his present. He got presents from others and didn't even notice.

I think YABU

I'm an adult now so my parents no longer buy me birthday or Christmas presents, However - my birthday is near December and my parents never got me separate presents. They would tell me to pick a birthday present out of my christmas pile and to be honest - I've always been annoyed at them for that.

Especially as my siblings were summer babies and they got two parties/ two lots of presents and more spent on them a lot more.

Because obviously at Christmas they weren't just buying for me, but the whole family. I raised this once with them and they just stated it was because they could afford their birthdays as they were at a more convenient time. if I ever have a child with a December / January birthday - I'll make sure to celebrate both Christmas and their birthday.

People shouldn't be punished for the month their born.

YABU

Instead of giving loads of presents at Christmas, save a few for her birthday a few days later :) that way you're not really spending any more than you would be doing anyway

mag thats horrible :(

fancy actually saying that to you u didnt ask whe to be born!

Something small from the pound shop might just make her day!

I worked with someone whose Birthday is at the beginning of April. She said she frequently had Easter eggs as presents. Now that is mean.

YABVU! At least get her a token present and make a bit of fuss. It's not her fault she was born close to Christmas! My birthday is a couple of days before Christmas so I must admit I am biased.