On my mind, was DH U

[Tryingtostayyoung]

Ok so this is going to sound pathetic but this happened last weekend, wasn't major but it really bothered me and it's been on my mind since...

DH is genuinely lovely, works really hard, hands on dad, always supportive, we have a good loving marriage and were pretty equal with most things were he slacks on things I pick it up and vice versa.
Last weekend I went out with DD to a tea party sort of thing that my friend was having, lovely afternoon, DH stayed home and did the garden the entire day. It really needed doing especially as we're hoping to have a garden party in the next few weeks. When we were leaving to come home i felt a headache coming on, within the 20min that it took me to drive home it was getting worse and worse. I told DH when I walked through the door (he was still doing he garden) and asked him if he knew were my migraine pills were as I just couldn't think straight. I had a search around but just couldn't find them anywhere, I took paracetamol out of desperation and it started to calm down. I then went to DH and said I can't find my migraine pills anywhere, the paracetamol has only tak the edge off, I need my migraine pills for in four hours when I'm allowed to take them. He then said, go and sit down or have a sleep, in a couple hours hopefully it will have calmed down enough and then you can just pop to the chemist and get some.... Now thankfully after an hour I was feeling much better, my head was clearer and I found my migraine pills but it really really upset me that DH could see I was suffering and panicky and didn't just offer to stop what he was doing and go get them for me. That is exactly what I would have done, AIBU?

Perhaps you should LTB

I do t think you were unreasonable to be upset. But then when I partner is ill I offer him every med in the house and would go and get them for him.
Migraines are awful and anyone who hasn't had one probably doesn't get how sick they make you.

Your pills, your problem.

I think if you woke up near the four hourly mark still suffering and he made you get them, then yes. Sounds like he was trying to reassure you but put his foot in it slightly by implying you should get them yourself.

Are they hormonal migraines? I only ask because I get these and find that I dwell on small incidents at ahem, certain times of the month that don't bother me otherwise. They usually involve my dh being a truly terrible person, but a couple of days later I realise he is only a moderately terrible person, like everyone else

Sympathy, migraines are horrible. Maybe have a chat about how you feel a bit vulnerable when you have one coming on and would feel reassured if he took charge and helped you find your pills if you're struggling, without blame for this time, but just so he knows where you are coming from.

I suffer from migraines so understand how awful they are. This is why I keep my tablets in my handbag and some others with other stuff like paracetamol etc in a cupboard. I'd never leave medication of any sort somewhere random.

Wow. I can't believe this has been playing on your mind for nearly a week!!!!!!!!!! Get a grip woman

Is this a stealth boast about how wonderful your husband is? He's so perfect that the one time he doesn't drop everything he's doing to get you tablets you'll need in 4 hours time leaves you stewing for a week.

YABU and precious

. OP, I know migraines are awful, but what a bizarre thing to even think about, let alone post about!

Your DH sounds delightful, consider yourself a very lucky lady and count your blessings.

Not unreasonable he's your husband so will have seen you with migraines before and should know how you react before/during an attack. Mine is all too aware as I have chronic migraines and can have up to 25 a month and he will always try to help although he must be fed up, (I am!). He gets about 4 a year and I always make the effort to get him tablets, keep the kids quiet and manage the staff and workload where possible (vegetable farm) for the few hours he needs that it's the least I can do in return

I'm confused.

What did you expect him to do if you couldn't take the tablets for another 4 hours? What would dropping everything and finding them do to help the situation and make the end result any different to what it was?

*"They are simple creatures aren't they?"

Did you marry a hamster by mistake Yorkie?*

Another for you Worra!

farm but what good would it have done if he had found the tablets? She still couldn't have taken them for 4 hours.

I think OP would have liked her H to get more tablets from the shop in case hers were lost.

OP, are you annoyed that he said 'YOU' can pop out and get them later, instead of 'I'?

Bloody hell. He had four hours to find the tablets. He didn't need to drop everything.

You need to take responsibility for your own medication and always keep it in the same place.

I think you're looking for problems where none exist.

I think OP wanted her husband to come and help her look for the tablets as soon as she got home, before she took the paracetamol. I would just let it go now, OP, you say he's a good man so I'm sure he didn't not act out of spite.

LTB

Not really. If that's the most annoying thing he's done recently you should be very grateful!

No

DH could see I was suffering and panicky and didn't just offer to stop what he was doing and go get them for me.

I don't think this it is unreasonable to want this. But he did offer a sensible solution and, overall, no harm done.

If a random stranger told me they were at the beginning of a migraine and couldn't find their pills I'd stop what I was going to help. Helping someone to find a lost item is just a generally kind thing to do. Especially is the person is in considerable pain. I don't really understand why anyone wouldn't help tbh.

My ex forgot his asthma inhaler when staying at my parents, even though he is allergic to cats and they have two. It never crossed my mind to do anything other than offer to drive him to the chemist to get an emergency replacement.