Swearing in front of kids (on public transport)

[Kittencatkins123]

This morning I was talking to two friend/colleagues on the train about my gran who is in early stages of dementia

Emotional topic (tbf I am also quite loud) especially as I was just up staying with her at the weekend, and swore when trying to explain something she does on loop

Mum sitting with her two young kids at the table next to ours told me off for swearing saying 'they soak it up'

I felt very violently angry towards her for several minutes! (Didn't say anything)

Appreciate she may not have known what we were talking about though I am quite loud but made me wonder what your thoughts are on swearing in front of kids (obvs in an unconscious, not thinking way)?

Also I'm feeling sad about my Gran so could use a few cyber hugs if you have any

Whatthefreakinwhatnow yes i know!
I seriously doubt anybody would go up to my dp and tell them to watch his language nor me for that matter.
I don't think we look friendly

I was at Thorpe Park with my DSDs (they were about 9 & 7) and my older children.

Teenage girl in the queue with 2 friends repeatedly saying "fucking cunt" every other word for a good 20 minutes.

I snapped a turned round and said something to her and said "I have to take these two girls home to their mum and explain why they have learnt a new vocabulary".

They laughed at me, took the piss out of my use of "big" words (vocabulary ) and threatened to punch my head in.

Kids were scared and upset and I was really shocked.

So from my own personal experience YABU.

Once, meh it happens. Every sentence littered with expletives, I probably wouldn't say anything but I would death stare

She was unreasonable, but your violent anger is a bit scary, probably misdirected emotions about your gran? I once told someone to shush who was repeatedly referring to how her 'fuckbuddy' loved 'anal' ,tbh i don't think my 3 yr old had a clue but she was such a show off i couldn't cope with a minute more! Sorry about your gran

Yanbu .

It wouldn't bother me. I've only sworn in front of my kids twice but we hear things when we're out and about.

Whatthefreakingwhatnow I didn't say I wanted to censor those around my children or that I would confront anyone. What I find that seems to be increasingly lacking in public is respect for those around you and the common decency not to subject young children to foul language. I know they will come across it at some point in their lives and there is nothing I can do to stop that. I do teach my children right from wrong and if they were to question what was going on around them we would discuss it. There is a time and a place for bad language and it is not in front of small children. But as I said in my previous post, I think the parent was being unreasonable to confront the op.

Yanbu if it just slipped out. I wouldn't have taken kindly to being chastised by a random fellow passenger either. Maybe just be aware to avoid it happening again. I have to try hard not to drop the occasional bomb in front of kids :)

I'm sorry to hear about your Gran.i wouldn't have mentioned anything unless it was every other word.

I'd expect someone close to me to curb their language but a stranger owes me nothing.

3.2 year old DD may copy but it's my job as her Mum to tell/show her it's not nice to swear.

I try my best not to swear but naturally when I've burnt myself or something 'fuck!' Has been uttered.

• neither of you were wrong. You apologised and stopped and her child probably isn't swearing like a sailor.

Id not worry about it anymore

Oh sweetheart that must be hard. Dementia is so brutal (we have been through it in my family).

You've said you don't normally swear in front of children of children and I'm sure if it was any other topic and it happened you'd probably go 'opps! sorry'.

I would imagine you probably only really feel cross about it because you're upset about your Gran. I wouldn't give it another thought hon.

Thoughts with you and your family.

If you swore at my child you'd be in big shit. If you just swore in general i don't actually care. I slip up quite a bit(ok a lot) around my child but the way e deal with it means she never swears herself. I do feel people are too precious. Everything is an influence,a bad role model bla bla bla. Nope,the main influence and role model in a child's life are his parents. I'm not going to blame music videos,barbies and random strangers swearing/smoking/drinking/whatever for it

Gold
I love to swear, if anyone commented on my swearing I would swear louder

In front of kids? Really? How obnoxious. I've politely requested people not swear in front my kids and have never had a response like that not even from a big group of drunk football fans on a train.

YABU. I wouldnt say anything but think its off.

Actually when we were kids we were on a dreadful package tour on a bus some of the other passengers were really obnoxious shouting and swearing. My lovely dad reminded them politely that there were children on the bus and ended up in a fight for his trouble! He had never had a fight before or since! So am wary of saying anything.

Sadly usually the type of person who swears loudly on public transport is unlikely to be reasonably pleasant when asked not to - see cutecat's post...

I think it's obnoxious commenting on a person's language!
cute that is awful

Really kali? Grown men shouting and swearing on a confined bus frightening numerous children and you would sit there and say nothing?

Unusually wouldn't say something to someone loud and swearing, as they are the type to start a fight. But you shouldn't be swearing around kids-this isn't unreason me of the mother to say something.

I mean usually, not unusually

I had this once. I was going through a really stressful time in general with life stuff. We went somewhere which is usually just frequented by adults with my friends in the middle of the school day just to sound off.. Bloke came in with his kids and told me off. Honestly I was doing it so subconsciously I didn't even notice.

You're not wrong and she's not wrong IMO. Draw a line under it OP. You have enough to deal with and trust me, her DCs will hear a lot worse in the school playground.

And plenty of cyber hugs OP. My Grandad had dementia I know how it affects a family also

No i wouldn't say

You were unreasonable for being 'quite loud' on public transport.

Apart from that, I have no issue whatsoever with swearing.

for you, though, OP. My gran has dementia too and it's bloody hard.

This is obviously a very devisive topic. Personally it pisses me off when people swear in front of kids (some swear words are worse than others though). I swear loads but never in front of children, I mean if I'm out in public I wouldn't swear loudly anywhere (under my breath maybe). I'm sorry to hear about your nan, it sounds like you are having a tough time and you obviously have her best interests at heart which is why you were so upset, however the mum on the train has her children's best interests at heart and it's understandable if she didn't want her kids hearing bad language. It's not 'wrapping them up in cotton wool' - kids copy stuff they hear sometimes and kids swearing isn't a nice thing.

I don't usually swear and wouldn't in front young children. It's unnecessary, as is shouting when you are just talking to the person sitting next to you.
I'd find a close relative having dementia something to be sadder and quieter than usual though, not something to get abusive and angry about. It isn't any ones "fault" why all the aggression?
I tend to avoid aggressively emotional people.

Don't think it would have bothered me. People swear. I never wrapped DS up in cotton wool.

I probably wouldn't say anything to a loud sweary person on a train, mainly because they are also usually drunk, and get confrontational if challenged.
I think people have to be aware of trains being public spaces though, including parents of young kids who can be the worst offenders happy to let kids argue at the tops of their voices and run up and down the aisles for ages.