Son upset

[rascalchops1]

My 7 yr old son is can only child, partner refused to have any more.We took 2 friends out yesterday and they came back to our house. He cried when they went home and moaned nobody comes to our house, even though they do. He seemed glum this morning. He has struggled at school, but little by little he is getting there and improving all the time. AIBU to be angry at my other half for my son's only child status. Or do kids with siblings get upset like this.

And if you doubt about my ds's illness, you can search and find out, since I talked about my ds's illness a lot on MN.

I hated being an only child, and used to cry about it, complain, whinge and beg my mum to have another baby.

Now I have 3 children, and the eldest 2 fight non-stop and are always complaining about each other's existence. I honestly don't think you can win either way!

^^so true, there is no ideal number of children. There will always be problems. I fought with my two siblings a fair bit and there were definitely times when I wished I was an only child growing up. I loved having time with my mum or dad on my own and it happened so rarely.

Now, I get on ok with them, but it's strained and stressful just spending any amount of time with one of them in particular (the younger one if that matters). I definitely don't think having siblings has greatly improved my life per se, though I obviously love them as they are my family.

Borrow someone's baby for 6 months and see what he says. I'm sure you'll find some MNers only too happy to oblige and have a rest.

You appear to believe that your DS being an only child is a major disadvantage to him. I can't see how this factor affects his education? Maybe you are more angry at your DH for the decision than you have admitted to yourself. If this is the case, you need to address it and come to terms with your joint decision.
Whatever you do, don't let your DS know that you see him disadvantaged by not having siblings. He is an individual, and will form his own identity, influenced by those around him. Give him a positive influence (which I'm sure you do).
My DD is an only because of fertility issues - I am probably over-sensitive to posts which appear to say that only children have less chance/opportunity than larger families.

DS waited and constantly moaned for five years for a sibling. He cried when he found out he was having a sister. He is 12 now and occasionally moans at me for a little brother. I brought him a dog instead!

I have 5 and bet they would love to be an only!!
Getting everything to them selves is their mission most minutes days.

Yabu swings and roundabouts

If you agree, as a couple, that the pill is going to be your contraception and then you stop taking it to get pregnant without telling your partner, you are a twat.

I say this as a person who was born in those circumstances. It's not ducking fun and can cause a life time of issues for all involved. I have no sympathy for people who do this.

If a man wanted to get his wife pregnant, but she didn't, so started putting holes in his condoms, people would call it abuse.

fucking fun

DS is an only - now adult - which was the preference of us both. I asked him once how he felt about it - in university days - and he told me he preferred it most of the time, but just occasionally he would have enjoyed having someone to share a whinge with about us!

I can add that he has always been superb with younger cousins and friends' DC and now with his cousin's little girl - they adore each other.

OP please don't be angry with your OH about this. It really is a two-way veto and it's better that way.

My oldest voiced his regret at the fact we had his little brother many many times when they were little

Like others have said, he was upset his friends went home

Lot's and lot's of people I know have only one child by choice. DH had a bitter argument with his sister about the inheritance, I will be spared of that as I am an only child.