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AIBU to think that having paid to see Florence at BTS Hyde Park, I shouldn't have to put up with other people's children

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monstiebags · 03/07/2016 00:41

I went to the BTS festival today and was lying on a blanket in the sun listening to some cool tunes when a family turned up and sat down a few yards away. Parents got in pints and pints of beer and settled down for some tunes whilst children ran up and down between my husband and I screaming and playing tricky. The band playing was a rapper and every other word was fxxxck. Am I being unreasonable to think that this was not a suitable
venue
for children who were very distracting for the rest of us who were there for the music.

OP posts:
FoxesOnSocks · 03/07/2016 23:23

Some call it 'catch' Damselindestress. Fun fact for you.

Tig
Tag
Catch

Possibly Tiggy (let's get Wiggy)

Orwellschild · 03/07/2016 23:28

Am totally going to put small bottles of rum down my bra when I'm there next week

whatamockerywemake · 04/07/2016 00:11
redpinkblue · 04/07/2016 06:32

It's Tricky to rock a rhyme, to rock a rhyme that's right on time
It's Tricky...it's Tricky (Tricky) Tricky (Tricky)
It's Tricky to rock a rhyme, to rock a rhyme that's right on time
It's Tricky...Tr-tr-tr-tricky (Tricky) Trrrrrrrrrrricky

Capricorn76 · 04/07/2016 06:48

I think you're being given a hard time here OP. I too would've been annoyed at kids running in between DH and I. Nearby fine but not in between us as if we were part of the game. Also I don't know why people keep asking what game tricky is? I haven't heard of it before but it's quite simple to work out that it involves running and yelling of some kind. The actual rules don't really matter here.

Inertia · 04/07/2016 06:49

Yabu for going to see Florence. I'd have welcomed the distraction from the Banshee - like wailing.

JackandDiane · 04/07/2016 06:50

Florence and her honky goose voice

Housemum · 04/07/2016 18:08

I'd be fagged off at other people's kids running over my blanket as I'd be worried they'd tread on my food/knock my drink over, but running around in a park is kind of expected. Unless the tickets said "no under 14s" then you would expect some families to go. If the parents were going mainly to see Florence they may not have heard of the rapper or realised the nature of the lyrics.

Really boring post but just place marking to see if OP says what tricky is...

whois · 04/07/2016 18:17

Other people are annoying, I'd have moved.

I would have also told the kids to stop running in between me and, but then I don’t have a problem telling other peoples kids off when they are making a nuisance of themselves. You don’t have to be nasty – just get their attention and tell them not to run through you and play near their own blanket.

Inyournightdress · 04/07/2016 18:19

Anyone criticising kendrick Lamar is definitely bu

No idea about the other stuff

Keletubbie · 04/07/2016 18:24

I have a bit of sympathy on some points. I went to BST on Sunday to see Carole King - who was so amazing that I wept - and it's not a hugely child friendly space. I don't think I'd like my DD (8) reciting Kendrick Lamar lyrics.

Also, there were no concessions for kids AFAIK. Who in their right mind would shell out £70 for their kid to run around ruining the experience for everyone else?

ExitPursuedByABear · 04/07/2016 18:24

Too much swearing for me.

Craigie · 04/07/2016 19:08

YABTU. It was a festival. What do you expect, Glyndebourne? People take their kids to festivals ALL THE TIME. If you want to "appreciate" music, you shouldn't go to a field. Get over yourself.

bunnyfuller · 04/07/2016 19:42

Disgraceful. Fancy going to something that anyone can go to, and then gluing you to the ground near children. I would ask Florence for a refund.

Stars2theside · 04/07/2016 19:59

Do you have a problem with your legs that you couldn't get up and move?! You're complaining about noise when you're at an outdoors gig?! Do me a favour!!!

Original poster
monstiebags · 04/07/2016 20:09

tricky is what autocorrect makes of "ticky" - it's a game people used to play before iPads were invented so maybe I should congratulate the parents that at least their children know how to play. We didn't move because we' d bagged a spot where we could lean against the signage. I take on board that an extremely loud adult concert is considered family fare these days but I know that I would not have taken my DS to such a concert - the Applecart maybe. A large proportion of the audience were absolutely out of it by around 6.30 and the piles of beer cans and plastic cups everywhere did not make for a nurturing environment for children. I went to an adult concert for which there are no children's tickets. I ended up babysitting someone else's kids. Never again. AS CantChoose suggested, the children were running around the blanket and throwing bottles of coke to each other over our heads. When we left at around ten, they were still there bored out of their brains.
For other posters, yes i have been to festivals before but usually confine myself to heavy rock - you can usually manage to be child free then.(florence was amazing though - or is 'amazing too old fashioned?)

OP posts:
happypoobum · 04/07/2016 20:16

Nope, am fifty years old and never heard of "Ticky" - so you could have moved, you chose not to. So YABU.

HTH

ExitPursuedByABear · 04/07/2016 20:18

I'm 57 and have never heard of tricky.

Is it tig?

Stars2theside · 04/07/2016 20:21

Grin cracking up!

Confusednotcom · 04/07/2016 20:28

You don't get "rights" over the area around your spot tho OP, and maybe the people couldn't get childcare or maybe their DC like running round a field listening to music in the sun (and rain) playing whatever. In an airport, restaurant, Glyndebourne it would be a no no but you really should have upped sticks if it was bothering you that much.

largerleon · 04/07/2016 20:51

I would have caught the bottles of coke flying over my head and opened them, then poured the contents away somewhere... I would probably have said something to the children and also the parents as well.
I absolutely hate it when my kids run around annoying other people and can't understand parents who can totally ignore theirs doing it.
Maybe it's just me... Blush

Wolfiefan · 04/07/2016 20:55

But you could move. The fact is you chose a spot and then decided you wouldn't. (Why on earth do you need signs to lean on?!)
I wouldn't take kids to such a concert but unless it is a late night gig or no under 16s you must have known it was a possibility.
Yes they ran around and I'm sure that wasn't the best way to help you enjoy the music but you could have shifted.

YeOldMa · 04/07/2016 21:06

I don't think yabu. I think it is a great shame parents don't parent. It is unacceptable for anybody to ruin somebody's enjoyment when they have paid for the entertainment. That being said, I would have either said something to the kids or moved away because I wouldn't have wanted my day ruined.

loobyloo1234 · 04/07/2016 21:07

BST festival:
Please Note: Anyone under 15 must be accompanied by a parent or guardian (18 or over). Children aged 2 and under will be admitted free of charge.

There was always going to be children OP. The only way to guarantee there'll be no kids around is either stand in the bar the whole time or stand in the mosh pit Wink

originalmavis · 04/07/2016 21:12

redpinkblue - that bloody tune has been rattling around me head since the beginning if this thread. It's driving me nuts.