to be annoyed at constant questions from MIL?

[hormental]

I probably am but it winds me up. She needs to know every tiny detail which I assume is so she can talk about it to others. So, for example, we took DD out for the day. She wants to know where we went, who drove, how long it took to get there, what we had for lunch and what we did when we got there.

Like Noah - I do exactly that.

For me it's partly because I'm genuinely really interested (I like to be able to imagine the full day the story teller has had, I find t hard to get onboard with partial information) and partly because, despite being chatty and quite confident I'm a little bit socially awkward.

I'm quite proud of my ability to ask relevant questions about any old topic

Oh and I'm pregnant with my first. So not a MIL/granny.

Not MIL but my parents... as if i want to know every detail in their things and then if i try and tell them my news they interrupt with their stuff again

like when my DH was in hospital with SEPSIS my dad dismissed it to talk about his fucking tummy bug!

Oh OP I do think that would be annoying after a while!!

She doesn't need to know the minutiae of your DD's day

I actually think I might prefer this. My parents are never interested in anything we have to tell them, which is why we don't bother telling them anything any more. If we try saying anything about e.g. our children, they just ignore us and move to their own favourite topics of conversation (Dad - himself, Mum - her extended family, plus the latest food/ mobile phone / health scare so she can lecture us). I find it surprising she has so little interest in our lives.

And we are not being boring - my sister and I ask them loads of questions about their lives.

I think I wouldn't mind being interrogated a bit!

BigTrouble and TinyTear, I think we share the same parents.

Navyandwhite, thanks for the accolade . That was without even trying to criticise my MIL too much. Imagine if I put some thought into it eh?

Oh no - hormental - I hear you and I'm with you.

Navyandwhite - there's no MIL bashing going on - OP is just letting off a bit of steam in a harmless fashion. And I've done the same in my response - what I haven't said is how loved my DH's aunt is and how much the children like her and what a treasured member of the family she is. She just has a harmless foible that can be irritating to others. That's how I (correct me if I'm wrong, OP!) interpreted the original post. She's just letting off a bit of anonymous steam, which probably makes for happier family relations in real life.

Another insecure DIL, who won't share little things about a grandchild. I can guarantee the questions are not about you OP.

My MIL loves knowing all sorts of mad shit; what the children ate on days out, what they did at school, the antics of their best friends; you name it, she knows it. I crack on and let her get on with it; we recently had to fill out an accident form at a play area when DS1 head butted a bollard (danced into it pretending to be Lady Gaga) and without even asking she reeled off his GP's phone number by heart.

She loves it, and it makes her feel part of things I think. So I leave her be. There's far worse shit she could do than to know what cocktail I got pissed up on last Saturday.

Neither My dm nor my lovely Mil are like this but I often come across people like this on the train. Dh says I just have the sort of face that attracts chatty people :-S recently for instance the man opposite me on train from London had told me so much by the time he got off that amongst other gems I knew the names of his pets (sheep. Ponies and dogs) how much his underfloor heating cost to run and what his son in law said when he proposed to his daughter. I could have drawn an accurate map showing the layout of his house, told you the names of the people who helped him move in his snooker table and how much he'd spent on wine the previous evening. I'd also been ordered to write down the best place for a wetshave for my dh in London, which table to ask for at a particular restaurant and had to work hard to turn down the offer of various gifts ranging from a glass of his wine (with the added incentive of being able to keep the glass) , half a pound of various cheeses, some charcuterie, packets of fancy crackers and the corkscrew... He was pretty pissed.....

She probably thinks she's showing an interest and making conversation. Irritating but I also feel sorry for her.

my mum is lovely but drives me mad with telling me minutiae and I end up switching off and I've nearly nodded off a few times when I've come in from work knackered and off she goes on many tangents.

She also has developed this habit since she got a mobile phone of Texting me minute details of the car journey to her holidays (if in the UK). I mean, I'll be mad busy in work and my phone will beep and I think it's something important and it'll be mum texting to say "just past junction 10 after stopping for a coffee and a paper. Traffic a bit heavier now." All. The. Way. There.

Think it started when we all went on a joint uk holiday as a big family group and were travelling in 3 different cars on the same day, so were texting each other with where we were stopping for breaks etc in case anyone wanted to meet up there if they happened to be there at the same time, plus updates about traffic jams that the furthest-ahead car reached first. I think that's fair enough as it's kind of pertinent to all involved in the journey.

But why she thinks me or my sister (not on their current trip and busy in work) will be remotely interested in what junction they reached before it started to rain I have no fecking idea. I don't even reply to them as I don't know what I'm supposed to text back. "Ok"?

I do like to know that she has arrived safe and that would be adequate info for me (and anyone, surely?!)