Hopefully I'm not being unreasonable but I feel horrendously guilty and haven't been able to get back to sleep!
On Monday, most of my closest friends met up to watch the England match, including a couple (let's call them Jane and Steve). We were discussing where to watch the Wales match and Jane mentioned that she wouldn't be there as she was going for drinks with work friends, and Steve was away working.
Steve asked if someone could offer a place to crash in case Jane missed the last bus or train - we (other 8 friends) all live within a 20 minutes walk of the centre, Jane & Steve moved from my street to the 'burbs at the end of last year.
I said of course she could stay at mine, it makes the most sense as we have an actual spare bed as opposed to someone's sofa or floor. It's also quite rare for Jane to go out drinking, she loves to be in bed by 10 - same as me :)
I didn't hear from Jane all night so texted her at 10:30 when I got back from the Wales game, asking what the chances are that she'll need somewhere to stay (this was about the time of the last train / an hour before last bus).
Again, I didn't hear back. I think spent 2 hours cleaning the flat/making up the bed/making sure she had towels etc just in case.
I got to bed at 12:30, still no word, called DP (who is also away travelling) who said knowing Jane, she'd gone home at 8:30 and gone to sleep.
So I fell asleep. I woke up at 5:30 because the cat decided he needed to sit on someone's face (thanks, cat) and I checked my phone in a panic - about 9 missed calls from Jane/Steve and 4 messages.
None of the messages were rude/grumpy, just asking if Jane could still stay over.
I feel awful, I'd made sure to not have my phone on silent and checked Jane/Steve were both my favourites so the phone would ring, I didn't check the volume though and it was on the quietest setting. The landline is broke at the moment (again, thanks, cat) but I don't think they have the number for it anyway.
I thought Jane would just come and knock on the door/ring the doorbell. My bedroom window is right next the the front door, I even closed the front gate as it's a noisy one and though her coming through it would give me a chance to grab jammies and let her in.
So, AIBU for not being more careful when I said a friend should stay?