"some people think I'm a tomboy, but I still had an epidural"

[Swings77]

What's that supposed to mean?

What?

It translates to: 'I am an utter arsehole'.

HTH.

Need some more context, it doesn't make that much sense as it is.

You seemed to have lost your post? What are you asking?

Eh? That's a strange connection to make.

No idea.

In labour?

Sorry, a woman in my baby group made that comment. Everyone giggled, but me. I didn't get it.

Like as in 'I'm supposed to be all tough but I found childbirth painful'? What a weird statement.

Did you not ask her?

Tomboys are tough, people thought she was tough, but actually she's a girly wimp and had an epidural.

No! I'm very shy, I'm not keen on the group at all, I'm only going for my baby. I'd have felt like a right outsider for asking, especially as I was the only one who didn't giggle

Ah yes. Good old men. Well known for their stoic, drug-free methods of coping with childbirth pains.

Some people do love to chat shit.

That's very odd I am a tomboy (hate that phrase) and didn't have an epidural so do I get some sort of prize. In answer to your question I have no clue what she meant.

I get it. She is a twat.

I'm sorry but I don't even label women as Tom boys. What a very old concept that a female who likes certain sports and clothes is a male minded person.

You need to find a new baby group! are they very young?

Stop going to the group if you don't like it.

Why do you mean by 'I'm only going for my baby'?

I'm sure there must be other groups you could go to.

HV said it's good to go, I stopped going for a bit and she thought it was a bit concerning and mentioned PTSD, so I kept going again.

Yes, there probably isn't anyone over 30, I'm the oldest there! (29)

Swings, you need to find a more supportive, like minded group. Don't waste your time on idiots.

It sounds as if she was trying to say in a joking way that having an epidural isn't a sign of weakness.

Tom Boy is a very old fashioned phrase etc

Your baby won't get anything out of the group - a group formed for new Mothers is that - for the mothers. If you aren't enjoying it, then find another.

I'd have probably snorted and said something like 'if men had to give birth I'm pretty sure a pain-free method would have been devised by now.'

I think the message she was trying to convey was that she should have been able to get through childbirth without an epidural but wimped out. It seems a harsh judgment call on others tbh and women have different pain thresholds.