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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask, what's the worst parental mistake you have made in good faith?

108 replies

Havingitall · 26/06/2016 18:22

As end of term approaches the kids and I were looking back over the highs and lows of the last school year. One incident stood out. World book day. I sent my daughter in wearing a bonnet and an empire line dress - take your pick of the Bennet sisters - but my son (14 and autistic) loves the Simpsons so with a yellow swim hat, some face paint, a shirt, jeans and a cushion, he made a fabulous Homer. That night they came home keen to talk about their day. DD quite happy, DS less so. Turned out my son's book day at school was the following week. He got off the bus that morning, well, you can imagine. Because he is the first to be picked up in the morning I hadn't noticed anything was wrong. I asked him what they said, and he replied "Mrs X said, 'Don't worry, we can wash it off"...."
By way of footnote we did turn disaster into triumph the following week when he reprised his role and came back with first prize, but both kids have spent the afternoon revisiting - I suspect this is a maternal gaffe never to be forgiven or forgotten.

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Onedaftmonkey · 26/06/2016 18:41

Not me but my mum sent me to school with flowers, card and chocolate as she thought my teacher was leaving. Turns out that she was only taking the day off for a funeral. She was very Shock and I was mortified.

donajimena · 26/06/2016 18:45

Gone to school on an inset day x 2
Missed non uniform day
took my son to his high school transition day in his primary uniform and had to go home for him to change.
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EatShitDerek · 26/06/2016 18:47

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honeylulu · 26/06/2016 18:48

In a moment of sheer desperation over toilet training I told my son that the police come and arrest people who have pooed their pants. There is barely anything I regret more. (Please don't make me feel worse than I already do). We live on a main road and often hear the siren. He would exclaim "oh no, someone has pooed in their pants!" He's now secondary school age and still says it, thinking it's a great joke, so hopefully no long-lasting trauma.
Bad bad honeylulu.

KittyandTeal · 26/06/2016 18:52

After dd1 had a spectacular fall at the farm. She scraped all her face near her eye, all swelled up etc.

Went to the pharmacy for cream who suggested docs as she'd fallen in a working farm yard and just check nothing got in her eye. Good plan me thinks but I hope they don't think I'm making a fuss so book to squeeze in with the nurse.

On seeing dd1 first thing she says is 'I'll just get the doc so he can check she's not broken her eye socket or cheek bone' Blush it hadn't even crossed my mind!

witchofzog · 26/06/2016 18:53

DS was keen to learn so I taught him his alphabet. He knew it at 2-3 years and I felt all proud. But I didn't teach him in phonetics which actually set him back when he went to school as he then had to relearn it all. I still feel guilty now as it was a struggle for him for a bit

madmother1 · 26/06/2016 18:54

My DS took a Holly shaped cutter to school for cookery. As I didn't want him to lose it, I told him it was solid silver and very expensive. He still talks about it now and he's 20 Grin

Acopyofacopy · 26/06/2016 19:10

Stopping my daughter from opening the car door into the car next to us I underestimated the voluptuousness of my bosom and smacked ds' forehead into our car door. Huge bruise to his forehead, reparations in the form of lots of cuddles and sweets and a red-faced explanation to his teacher following the incident Blush.

Acopyofacopy · 26/06/2016 19:12

Oh, my attempt at conceiling my identity resulted in a sex change for my child. Note to self: use dc next time! Blush Blush

Headofthehive55 · 26/06/2016 19:13

Forgot to give my child breakfast.
Little voice from back of car...are you going to feed me? She was four.

Headofthehive55 · 26/06/2016 19:16

Oh made DD do her flute exam with a broken wrist. We thought it was sprained....

hotdiggedy · 26/06/2016 19:17

Forgetting a dressing up day at school. Still feel the pain now.

RaeSkywalker · 26/06/2016 19:17

I'm currently pregnant with DC1 so nothing to add yet- I'm sure I will have loads though!

My Mum made me walk home from Brownies with a sprained ankle once. My Grandad made my Aunt walk 2 miles home with a broken ankle when she was a child Shock

hotdiggedy · 26/06/2016 19:19

Actually, the worst thing I probably ever did was buying gadgets for the children. Should have stuck to books, paper and pens.

Headofthehive55 · 26/06/2016 19:20

We forgot to get her fully dressed...she was about two and we went to the seaside. I thought she was wearing something a bit odd but chose not to accus DH of poor fashion sense. When I got her out of the car she was still with her nappy on and pjs under her dress. It turns out shed got herself dressed and we both thought the other parent had dressed her!

Must say she was our first and I hope we have got better. We always say she was the one we practised on!

ingeniousidiot · 26/06/2016 19:20

Didn't take the kids back to school on Monday after the easter holidays - I thought they started back on Tuesday. Realised just before lunch and took them in, put 'parental incompetence' in the late book.

ingeniousidiot · 26/06/2016 19:22

Left ds on the naughty step for about half an hour, until a little voice said 'can I get off now' he was about 3 ...... so intended 3 mins.

elfycat · 26/06/2016 19:27

I kept forgetting DD2's Forest School days, and sent her in wearing uniform.

It got to the point where the teacher put a note to me on a large sticker and plastered it on DD2's top the day before the next Forest School and I still forgot

StarryIllusion · 26/06/2016 19:39

My mum once made me ride my bike to daycare with a broken arm and then shouted at me when I rode into the road because I couldn't squeeze the brakes. Then left me at daycare all day and didn't take me to A&E till the next day because she thought I was playing it up to avoid daycare (hated that place.) I got mileage out of that one for YEARS.

I haven't done anything to mine yet, too young. Plenty of time though!

Bluetrews25 · 26/06/2016 19:47

DS1 was at primary school, dyslexic, never got to do anything major in any of the parent-attended assemblies / performances.
I didn't take the morning off work to watch some harvest festival or somesuch celebration. At parents' evening they told me it was a shame I missed him doing the main reading part at the one I did not attend. (Darn shame no-one told me he was going to be doing it! DS1 I'm looking at you!)

redstararnie76 · 26/06/2016 19:50

Sent my daughter to school when she didn't feel well, telling her that she'd feel better when she got there She didn't. She threw up over her teacher...

Havingitall · 26/06/2016 19:53

Thank goodness I am not alone. Honeylulu you actually made me cry with laughter.

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Beth2511 · 26/06/2016 19:55

I accidently slammed my dds hand in a door in a desperate bid to grab her other hand before she tried to walk down the stairs.

Not sure who sobbed harder or longer...

228agreenend · 26/06/2016 19:55

Asked dc's teacher when she was due. She wasn't pregnant! I can still feel the shame and embaressment 10 years on!

DerelictMyBalls · 26/06/2016 19:56

Banned guns, gum and cola. He is now completely obsessed with all three, and fantasises about getting a job so he can buy himself some. Sad