To think people shouldn't play Peppa fucking Pig on loud in a cafe?

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I'm a mum to 3 (2 of whom have gone to church with Grandma and 1 who I've brought to attend a farm trip with Rainbows).

I've stayed in the cafe as it's rare that I get time alone so an enjoying an uninterrupted breakfast.

It's a family farm so naturally I expected there to be kids around. The cafe has 7 free tables yes I counted and they choose to sit on the one right next to me, fair enough, but they didn't need to.

Now they have Peppa Pig playing out loud on a phone.

WIBU to launch the pig into space?!

YANBU.

Watching anything on a phone/tablet without earphones in a public place is just rude.

YANBU. If my daughter ever uses her kindle or DS in a public place, then it is with sound off or with earphones. It is just rude to expect other people to put up with the noise

I think it's OK as long as volume is quiet. Ds has toys that play music, say phrases etc that he plays with in cafes on low volume. He has asd and they keep him calm. We interact with him at the same time but he would be louder (making noises and banging on things), probably upset and more annoying to other people without them. He doesn't tolerate headphones.

You'd rather interrupt your own breakfast by Mumsnetting, rather than smile and say, "Oh hi. Do you think you could turn that down just a touch please"?

YANBU. I had just dozed off on a flight the other day and was woken by the sound of an explosion it was actually a child watching a film on their tablet without headphones.

There were three of them near me during the flight. One mum made a rather feeble attempt to get her son to turn the volume down. He said he didn't know how and then proceeded to turn the volume up to maximum

I don't understand why anyone thinks it's OK to use devices in public without earphones. Adults do it too. The people I find most annoying are ones who use their phones on loudspeaker rather than holding it to their ear, so everyone has to listen to their inane conversation.

Anyway, definitely move table. Why would it matter if they know why? They are the ones being rude, not you.

YANBU. There's a mother who does this on the bus every Monday afternoon. Drives me bananas.

Toddlers of peppa pig age would struggle to wear headphones, Yabu.

Why not move table? Parents won't know they are being out of order unless you do.

YANBU. Selfish idiots.

Move. Make it obvious. End of.

Oh Lord, I'm sorry, I've been guilty of this. DD is 2 and has been a bit unwell, and she has a scream like an electric drill. We were having a coffee in Carluccios and while I waited with her she got fed up of the crayons etc and I found an episode of Peppa on my phone to stop her screaming. I never use my phone with her because I don't trust her not to drop it, but in this instance she was ruining other people's nice coffee and I couldn't just take her out as we were already in the outside part, I was waiting for a friend, and had ordered but not paid! It felt like the best option in the circumstances - I did have it quiet. Or as quiet as feasible. It was just that nothing else worked until her cake arrived and blissful silence reigned.

This is why I don't ever take toddlers out at this age as a rule. Sorry.

Did sit as far away from other people as possible, though. They were very nice at the nearest table - "we've all been there!" when I apologised for the wails.

I will do this... I have the volume down ( but audible). I find it really useful for entertaining my child whilst the other does dance, I will play/ talk to them but they get bored after 45 mins of me and normally have another 45 to go!

They've gone now anyway. I didn't move. I just got another coffee and enjoyed that in relative quiet. There are now several children here so it's bustling and noisy but not Peppa which is perfect.

I like Peppa

Don't you have any loud goth/metal/industrial music on your phone?

YANBU

Were you really too scared to move tables?

I would have moved.
And made it bloody obvious

I suffer with anxiety so moving tables and causing potential conflict genuinely wasn't an option for me.
I've taken a little walk outside (across the road from the farm) and I'm now sitting on a bench alongside a public footpath. It's actually idyllic, sunny but with a lovely breeze and I can only hear the animals no pigs whatsoever
Think we might bring all the DCs here another time and I'll let DH take them to the farm whilst I sit on this bench.

See...

In future if you want to move tables without causing conflict just nip to the loo and sit somewhere else when you come back - less obvious then.

I can't imagine anyone causing conflict because someone has quietly got up and moved to another table.

Well I have to say I've broken all the "rules" since I've had dc3 and I actually DON'T CARE!

My first two children were within normal limits of behaviour. I also had normal tolerance levels and support so never would have found myself out in public with children behaving unacceptably.

However I moved away from all my support (not intentionally) when pg with DC 3. So I have had no support, lower tolerance (due to emotional isolation) and DC 3 is really tough behaviour wise. She has screamed, pulled things off tables, watched peppa loudly, run around, etc in cafes. I feel totally mortified at times but sometimes need to try and build my support network by meeting people and have to just cope with it. It's not ideal but I'm hoping it's not forever and I just think other people can move away / don't have to cope with DC / etc etc. By the same tune it's made me so much more tolerant.

This DC3 screamed for the whole leg of a plane journey ( 7 hours) totally humiliating me, when I've done millions of flights with the older 2 and no issues. I still had to get home and see my mum and sister so it just had to be. I know she will get older (this will pass) and I will be revelling in a quiet flight, quiet meal, quiet coffee when the time comes. And if another poor parent disturbs me with their child's noise I will smile, maybe even offer to help (if I'm in the right mood) and move away if I can't take it (and thank God it's not me this time...)

It wasn't the child's noise that was bothering the OP.

It was the volume of the device the child was watching.

And children running around in cafes, is dangerous and annoying no matter which table you move to.