To be be fed up with my 3yr old ordering me around?

[Tatteredlace]

I know, she's only 3... but the constant ''Make me some apple juice in my new frozen cup with the curly straw please Mummy!"

Like, jeez, why can't you ask nicely... Please can you, can you please? She knows to ask nicely but still insists on being a diva and expects me to answer to her beck and call.

EURRGHHHH I just want to snap sometimes.

She can clearly see that I am carrying a box the size on a small horse and trying to clamber over the baby who wants to park herself on my foot GRRR

Rant over... Phew... feel a little better now

You have done an amazing job raising her if she is angelic in public and saves her hell razing for home!

Does she still nap in the day? I have had to put my dd's naps back up to about 90 mins or she is pure evil in the afternoon! She starts preschool in September so not sure how she will cope then! But if she doesn't get at least an hour and more is better then she is significantly worse.

Yes a nap and a nutritious snack and drink can work wonders for everyone!

She only naps if she has been at pre-school in the morning. She is still a pain in the you know what but the peace is nice!

I feel sorry for her baby sister when she gets to talking age, she's already hearing her name being consistantly shouted for even looking in the direction of DD1s toys!

I'll be honest, I found the sticker charts etc didn't really work. What worked per se, was my just ignoring the bad, praising the good, and occasionally treating DS like a grown up. I would make a cup of tea and read a book calmly if he was getting too stroppy. Till he got the message and when he saw me raise an eyebrow and put the kettle on, would quickly back down! He knows well that Mummy can ignore and drink tea (and MN) for ages.

Also, on the manners thing, sometimes you do have to pick your moments. If she's been great all day, its 6 pm and she wants a book and forgets to say 'please', I wouldn't push it. The hitting though is a big 'no no'. I would say, 'did you hit me? Did you?' in a truly shocked voice. Then walk away and say, 'oh absolutely not.' Here are our house rules: repeat and put her in her room. So be outraged, tell her 'never again', but also don't feed the attention. It's a VERY fine line to walk and I'm not sure I've always walked it correctly.

lenibose if I get upset at being hurt it has a better effect than shouting for hitting. A decently melodramatic Ouch! and rubbing the area with a full on sad face 😞 gets a cuddle and an apology where fury would be met with fury (and doesn't cause a tantrum when Spiderman doesn't want to play with him and gas to sit in the kitchen for a while as a consequence!)

Old and Ineed :o

Letting them do more for themselves really does make things better for everyone - imagine having to ask nicely and then wait until somebody else has time every time you want a drink if water! By 3 (or tbh 2) kids can easily be doing a whole lot more for themselves if you set things up to make it managable for them and will then be a lot less frustrated.

Then again I'm very lazy and don't see any need to wait on my children all of the time :o

I have one of these too. Like PP have said, my ears now do not work if requests are not made politely. I just have to stand with my hand cupped behind my ear in a 'did someone say something?' way and DS remembers his manners a lot more often now.

Worried about him starting school in September though (he's 4 in 5 weeks). He will be bossing all the other kids around big time!

Nah, he'll just get bossed back by the other stroppy 4yos roomba 😉

My 2 year old is bossy and will ask for things 'right now Mummy'

Only problem is that his speech still isn't very clear, so although he tries to be polite, when I hand him what he asked for I then get 'Fuck you Mummy.'