to think NC chickens should have all their nicknames exposed?

[A11TheSmallTh1ngs]

I frequent another site with the ability to make certain posts "incognito" if you need to post anonymously. But if someone misuses that power, the admin exposes their poster name.

The recent thread about disabled toilets made me think. Why not expose people who name change so they can say "controversial" and "petty" things that would tarnish their "mumsnet" reputation?

I'm not talking about trolls who post horrible offensive crap to get a rise. I mean people who name change because they want to say something petty and nasty but still wanna get patted on the back a day later for being nice.

Maybe certain topics that ALWAYS get nasty (like disabled toilets/parking/autistic children in your class etc) should be high alert topics. And if you start a goady thread on them, mumsnet exposes all of your prior usernames.

So next time a disabled person asks an able bodied parent to leave a disabled bathroom, they won't gleefully rush home to mumsnet and namechange to trash them because the price may be too high?

What do you think?

it probably happens I just can't work out how.

four, this week someone messaged me to say I was outed. I'd shared a photo on FB of something I'd made for Woolly Hugs; when WH received it they took a photo and shared it, crediting me as MrsHathaway. Only someone who follows both could possibly make the link, but it took her less than a second to do so.

Now as it happens I don't mind who knows that this is me - I've posted about my child's unusual name and even put up a photo - but then I don't use this nc to talk about anything sensitive and if I want to use examples from my real life to make a point I generally obscure other people's details so they couldn't be identified from me (eg saying my sister if I mean cousin, or someone's 5yo son for 6yo daughter).

And some people are fairly unique - eg my degree is unusual and even rarer in my field of work, so if I mentioned both in one post then people who knew me would have a strong suspicion it was me.

So people who've namechanged because they :

Want to disclose they were raped once

Want to talk about a still birth

Want to talk about Domestic Violence

Their husband is cheating

etc

etc

in a private way without it being linked to their other posts and thereby having a friend, parent from the school, or relative putting two and two together are denied that right because YOU feel that their opinion on some other topic is "wrong" or "goady"

Yeah, right, OK

And yes you can change between nns - I change between MrsHathaway and JillyCooperBookClub approximately hourly in the right week!

It's only a matter of time until a hacker gets this information and makes it public. I hope MNHQ have encrypted it.

What do I think?

I think this is a thread about a thread.

I also think you've misrepresented what the Op in the original thread actually said in her own OP.

I think you should toddle off to the polling station, if you haven't already, and do something more useful with your time.

Why not expose people who name change so they can say "controversial" and "petty" things that would tarnish their "mumsnet" reputation?

because that's (a) bullying and (b) its not that important in the grand scheme of things. Its fucking AIBU not the UN

It's a public forum and as such will inevitably have its share of trolls and goady fuckers.

Exposing NC's to "catch" this minority at the expense of most posters who want to NC (for very legitimate reasons - or even TBH just because they want a new name) is just a disproportionate response.

Upshot is if this is such an issue to you, then you are probably very much over invested.

The best response to either a suspected troll or GF is report and move on to another thread or dare I say it something productive in real life.

I NC frequently. I think Iv only ever had one thread that took off and got lots of replies that I may have felt patted on the back by for starting but I NC because I'm somewhat isolated IRL socially, I have a MH condition that makes me feel I can't share my concerns with people IRL because as a whole picture it's too intense but in little pockets on MN I can find clarity and advice safely. I feel safe on MN purely because of the NC option and it's a lifeline for me sometimes

If my ex finds me he will kill me if this rule was introduced I couldn't use mn

It's as simple as that.

No, usual: I told her to go and do something more productive instead of starting a thread about a thread, which is against MN rules.

I am the poster who started the thread you are so het up about and I explained there why I name changed for it, for the reasons that others have also recognised on this thread. It has absolutely nothing to do with tarnishing my MN "reputation" - I don't have a MN reputation! However I could potentially be identified by RL friends from the thread, because I had mentioned what happened to those friends. I have no problem with my RL friends recognising me as the person who posted the thread - why would I, I've spoken to them about it already!

Under my previous username however, I have posted other personal information which I do not want the RL friends to know. Specifically, posts about my struggles with post natal anxiety. I name changed so the thread they might recognise me from would not then enable them to find all my other posts that I don't want them seeing. This is perfectly legitimate and I have no problem with other posters doing the same thing.

I only named changed once on here to get perspective on a subject. Reason was that if the person it was about saw and realised it was me, she had already proved herself....unhinged shall we say. She would have had no problem in trawling through everything I have ever said and somehow using it against me. I don't say horrible things or anything but like I said, unhinged. So no, we should be able to name change, unless being cunts for no reason

My name now is a name change which I was forced to make after a friend outed me on fb. I had written about some really sensitive and personal things on here that I had no desire to share with people in real life. I had no option but to have HQ remove everything I had written and change my name (they were lovely and helpful). There was absolutely no hidden agenda in changing who I am here it was purely so I could remain anonymous, just like everyone else.

Not all people who name change do it for a bad reason, so no I don't agree with you OP.

I have name changed a couple of times, not to do anything bad, but to ask a personal question that I would rather not be associated with my usual name (this one). Thankfully I trust MN not to "expose" it to satisfy people like you.

I hate when posters who are posting on MN tell other posters to go and do something more productive instead of posting on MN

haha that's very true - aside though people get so fucking het up, its like this anger that's simmering like lava and it just takes 1 thread and WHOOSH- out it comes . The TAAT of this post is a case in point.

I think you've misunderstood the OP MeAndMy3

She's talking about name changing to be petty and nasty. She didn't say all people name change for that reason.

I wonder where the OP has gone?

Wouldn't it be ironic if she name changed and never came back to the thread?

I don't have a sinister reason for NC, rather I don't want to be outed in RL. Since the beginning of this year I now NC every couple of weeks.

Ginky

I have to say I really don't think the OP of the baby changing thread was name changing to goad.

Some people just hate name changes and so will criticise them anyway.

Ah right.
Still, I don't think some posters name change in order to be nasty and petty, but some people just interpret it that way. I think people are slightly overreacting about the OP namechanging yesterday.

I also think people should be banned for not reading the op and spectacularly missing the point

Ooo how rude :)

Lol, I'm right here!

I went to go and vote! So the person telling me to was being prescient but didn't know it!

Basically, not all name changes but name changes to be goady should be exposed. I do like the idea of not being allowed to name change when discussing certain topics but it doesn't stop people from name changing for a few posts then changing back.

Babyred457 that thread was horrible goady shite and you know it.

Look, I've said plenty of offensive things under my own user name. I don't name change because I'm happy to stand by what i've said.

People name changing to make controversial statements are cowards and should be outed as such.

I could have written the disabled change OP, I wouldn't have had any idea it was offensive to ask or really much idea about why someone disabled might behave that way, at least not till sounding it off with someone

I find I get an education through mumsnet on some things - surely it's less harmful to have these threads and raise awareness for more people IRL?

I didn't see it as goady as I thought I could have just as easily started a thread like that had it happened in my day