To be annoyed about this on DD's school report?

[LittleMiniPainAuChocolat]

DD is year 6, and is aged 11. For this whole school year she has been given a hard time by a girl in her class who told DD at the beginning of the year that she was going to make things up about DD and continue doing this until DD left the school because of it. She also gets others to join in.

The school haven't been that great about it. Initially they kept telling DD off as this girl's parents kept going into the school about the lies their DD was telling them but when I put the school straight about this they just told DD to ignore it, but said to me that it's easier said than done to stop the girl's lies and that by the time they'd put a stop to it then it would be the end of the school year anyway!

Today I have had DD's school report and one of the comments on there said something along the lines of "DD has had lots of problems getting on with a fellow pupil this year". As if it's DD's fault!

I want to complain to the school as I am worried they will be painting DD to her secondary school as someone who can't get along with others, but DH says to leave it.

I'm so cross about it, I feel like I can't just leave it!

I would imagine from that sentence, that, in the schools opinion, your dd has given as good as she got.
I have no idea if they are right or not.

My son is in year 6 (almost 11) and we've had problems with a boy that from reception to year 6 classed himself as his best friend!!! Very similar situation making up stories, silly comments, "grassing him up" for things he hasn't done & generally getting the other boys to stick with him & ignore my son. We got the boys will be boys statement..infuriates me so much. At 11 years old kids should know how to behave & these sorts of comments shouldn't be an excuse for what is essentially bullying. Our situation seems to have started when the friend didn't pass the 11+ exam & our son did. Our son is extremely clever (don't know where he gets it from ) & wasn't really fased by passing (just takes everything in his stride!!) the other boy was devasted & has been a little s**t to my son ever since.
In your situation - we haven't had reports issued yet - but I think I'd be tempted to ask the school to erase the comment so it didn't effect further schooling. Good luck X

Fuck that. Can she go to a different school? I would be really annoyed and asking for a report that acknowledges the bullying as the reason why she didn't get on with one child, ie the bully.

After a year of watching DD suffer and the school not taking its safeguarding responsibilities seriously, I too would be furious.

I would want to get it changed along the lines of 'Despite being bullied by a fellow pupil for the entire year, DD has done very well'.

I'd probably go in with that as my back up sentence and initially ask them to change it to something along the lines of 'Despite being failed by the school who enabled a fellow pupil to bully DD for the entire year, she has done remarkably well'. Or maybe 'DD has had lots of problems being bullied by a fellow pupil this year, and the problem was compounded by the fact the staff refused to take safeguarding her seriously, enabling the bullying to continue the entire year when it should have been stopped as soon as the issue was raised.'

This would be to try to make the point to school that it is completely unacceptable to minimise bullying and dismiss it as a problem that your dd has had rather than to deal with the bullying.

I'd also be talking to the pastoral team at secondary school and explain that you're worried, that the previous school did nothing about the bullying and made it worse when DD got told off for things that she didn't do as a result of the bully's lies, so that you want to ensure that she does not have to suffer at this school too.