Am I being horrible?

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Got big academic news earlier, masters result. Been stressing about this for months. Took a while to sink in. Family talked about celebration meal, I said would discuss later. Had some supermarket microwave risotto in the fridge which I was offered, not trying to be ungrateful but surely one of the boons about it being "your night" is that you can choose. I rejected offer maybe a bit rudely as emotions are all over the ship. Need time to sink in. Have gone for takeaway instead but dfather who I lived with has stormed off to "cool down"?! Aibu to think they can cut me some slack.

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Err... what was it that made you salty? Celebration meal was mentioned but you wanted to discuss later? Microwave risotto was offered...you feel slighted?
I don't understand what has occurred.

You got some disappointing exam results, family offered to take you out for dinner, you said no not yet, then they offered you a ready meal and you were rude?

If I've understood that right, I appreciate how disappointed you'll be but you were rude. Can you suggest going out tomorrow instead, and for now have a quiet night in digesting the info of your results?

You got some disappointing exam results

I read it as good exam results???

I'm guessing that as it was put across as a celebration meal the OP got a very good result but the celebration meal on offer was frozen risotto whereas OP was expecting a fancy meal out somewhere swanky?

I thought she had good news?

writer said what I was thinking!

Ah I see, I'm not sure why you'd reject the offer of a nice dinner if it was good news?!

You told your family, when offered a celebration meal, that you would discuss it later, OP? Whatever may have been on offer at the time would have been moot at the point of your rudeness and dismissiveness. I'm assuming that you were overcome and are not usually that rude to your family.

Rather than them cutting you some slack, you owe them an apology.

It sounds a bit silly. I guess there is lots of background. Are your results better than you expected?

How about apologies all around and plan a proper celebration in a few days. Organise what you want to do yourself .

You got your Masters and they offered you a fecking microwave meal?! I'd be pissed off to the extreme. DF can jack off, does he not realise how hard it is to get a masters?

I'm not sure I'm following.... you said you didn't want to discuss a celebration meal right now so they listened to what you said and offered you a run-of-the-mill dinner tonight?

If that's the situation then yes you are being unreasonable. I'm not sure if that is the situation though

After all the stress, I remember the actual results as a time when the blues descended.

Recognise, I think, the OP may be feeling a down, wanting a little time to adjust.

Hope all works out ok for you. Welcome to the rest of your life. Enjoy.

Results a lot better than expected. No did not want meal out somewhere fancy. Just wanted luxury of chilled meal with family at home. Father threw strop when I said I did not like random suggested ready meal in fridge, not in a princessy way, just because I do not like risotto. He was opposed to my choice (buy takeaway) but in the end I bought myself takeaway, family were eating something else anyway but have ordered enough for everyone. Just don't see why it's always so anxious and dramatic. Wish could be more low-key.

OP can you clarify? I don't understand exactly what has happened?

Have you all been at the Cava?

Congratulations!

No not at all crunchy! Well one glass down! Sorry if I'm not making sense, it's all still sinking in.

Thanks red xx

I kind of get it. You've had great news, much better than you expected. Family are going "yay lets all go out and celebrate" but you just want some quiet time to assimilate what has happened. so dad offered a microwave meal instead then took offence when you turned that down too?

I would explain, calmly, that you're feeling a little overwhelmed and ask if you can celebrate tomorrow

Plan a proper more organised celebration for the weekend maybe. And congratulations too :)

Righto. Well congratulations on the masters results! Um...maybe tell your family you need time to process. Your dad sounds a bit hufty but maybe you were sharp with him.
Anyway...congratulations again...don't sweat it. x

Congrats!!!!
Offering you risotto to celebrate when you don't like risotto is thoughtless. Being upset that you reject a ready meal seems silly (unless he spent his last pounds on it or something).

It sounds like you're in a bit of a results stupor and may have come across in a way you didn't intend. I think you probably need to explain that everything feels a bit much at the moment, hence not wanting to go out for a slap up meal.