Am I being horrible?

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Got big academic news earlier, masters result. Been stressing about this for months. Took a while to sink in. Family talked about celebration meal, I said would discuss later. Had some supermarket microwave risotto in the fridge which I was offered, not trying to be ungrateful but surely one of the boons about it being "your night" is that you can choose. I rejected offer maybe a bit rudely as emotions are all over the ship. Need time to sink in. Have gone for takeaway instead but dfather who I lived with has stormed off to "cool down"?! Aibu to think they can cut me some slack.

I don't see why a all the strop ones has been about. You had good news..it's perhaps a bit short notice to organise nice food.

People may have been at work all day. Etc etc

Congratulations X have a glass of cava and a well done from me xx

Did they actually specify the celebration meal would be tonight ?

You brushed them off when a celebration meal was offered - yet presumably they all had to eat too and didn't want to wait til her highness decided if she wanted to discuss a special meal or not.....and carried on as normal.

Frankly I think you were lucky to get offered rissotto as you were quite dismissive of them wanting to celebrate your unexpectedly good result.

What's the point of buying enough takeaway for everyone if someone else is already cooking ? Just a waste of food .

I think you are being a bit U.
I gained my Masters last year, having had to defer some work owing to a bereavement. When I got the result I was at home with DH & DD so still cooked dinner, washed up etc. We celebrated at the weekend.

It is a lot of work, and it is stressful but it doesn't require diva behaviour.

Congratulations

I understand that it's the grand finale of many sleepless nights, unanswered questions and extreme anxiety. You're allowed to be a little tetchy.

But they didn't deserve it, so an apology would be in order. Hope your takeaway lived up to expectations! Maybe think about all going to the pub together at the weekend? Or something flashier, if finance allows.

I read this as
OP got excellent result - yay!
Op was offered celebration meal
Turned out to be risotto
Op suggested takeaway
Father threw strop

To me that makes him U.

But well done OP, great news. Dont let this take the shine off it.

You do sound a bit like hard work. Im confused, I really can't see what the issue is. Also how long does it take for exam results to sink in? Surely you just find out what they are and that's that.

So they offered to take you out and you said no. They offered to feed you what they already had in the house and you said no again but rudely then just ordered takeaway for yourself?
YABU and you need to apologise for being bratty.

Pretty sure OP didn't say that... She said she ordered enough for everyone. And that her dad stormed off to cool down. YANBU

I read this as:
OP was overwhelmed by positive results after months of stress and couldn't process info.
Turned down fancy meal due to discomfort celebrating so publicly as didn't expect such results so wasn't prepared to celebrate.
OP suggests take away to spend time in front of the telly celebrating quietly as a family.
Dad says it's either night out or she eats frozen risotto instead nd totally dismisses take away idea, but she doesn't like risotto (you'd think he'd know this) so gets a bit snappy, perhaps "just leave me alone then".
OP sees they've turned her success into doing something they wanted (fancy night out bragging) rather than the time OP needed to get her head straight.
Dad throws a strop.
OP is still in shock about grades.

You are being a little yes.

Well done though

Bit confusing.

Did your Dfather really want to eat out so that's why he was in a mood?

Did you clearly ask everyone if takeaway would be ok?

Good job you were doing the masters and not some of the people on this thread .

Well done .

YANBU. Your DF sounds a tad controlling. Enjoy your celebrations!

Surely if you're old enough to do a Masters degree you're well beyond the age where you would be expecting your parents to have a detailed knowledge of your dietary likes and dislikes?

I can understand why he's a bit grumpy. Especially as it sounds like the family have to some extent been facilitating the Masters. In fact, I think my response would be that if they didn't like the catering on offer they should start looking for somewhere else to live.

You dad sounds jealous (is he?) Presumably he knows you don't like risotto?

Congratulations OP

Congrats on the masters.
You can get ready made risotto? Misses point of thread.....

Family were thoughtless to offer you microwave risotto as your celebration meal, and not to join in with your take away.

But there are probably wider issues at play with your family here.

when you said you wanted a 'chilled meal'... Did you actually say that aloud, and your Dad took it literally and offered you something from the chiller cabinet?

Not meaning to rain on OP's parade but there are a LOT of very highly qualified posters.

I don't think for a minute that OP's dad is jealous. Was that a serious comment? Baffling!

I hope that OP has calmed down now and is making arrangements with her family to celebrate her result.

OP sees they've turned her success into doing something they wanted (fancy night out bragging) rather than the time OP needed

Ah. I hadn't thought of it like that.

We may never get to find out