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to be addicted to chatting to guys online

65 replies

tevion · 20/06/2016 14:56

I have developed a obsession with trying to find a man for a fling.
I have been with partner for 28 years with one ds aged 15.
I have no attraction to my partner and am bored.
I am 45 years of age and have chatted to men as young as 21 and had some really sexy talk and so much love it it makes me feel so good.
The conversations get really rude at times.
I have had offers to meet up but chicken out always as I am not sure what to do.
Please I really need to speak to somebody about this.

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KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 15:30

Earlier OP you said two months...

So I think your life taking a spiral doesn't have much to do with you "doing" what ever your doing with men online.

Just leave your partner if you don't want to be with him anymore you will cheat on him and it will be worse for everyone in the end.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:31

and glad I came on here first before doing something

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KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 15:32

And people are harsh because you are cheating on your partner and if anyone said

My DP has been having sexual conversations with women half his age on line and looks like he will now actually take it to the next level

They would be saying LTB.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:34

sorry kitten I didn't folow

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KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 15:37

If your partner was telling this story from his perspective they would be telling him to leave you.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:38

okay

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:40

I think I have lost interest in my relationship because things haven't panned out properly what with no baby and no support from partner at that time him never wanting to socilaise and son not needing me anymore

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Pinkheart5915 · 20/06/2016 15:41

Doesn't excuse talking dirty to men behind your dp back.

ErNope · 20/06/2016 15:45

Leave the poor bloke will you?
Awful.

Laiste · 20/06/2016 15:46

There is nothing wrong with what you're doing - but you need to be doing it as a single person.

I'm sure if your son could have the choice he'd rather be 'uprooted' than have his father treated like this.

KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 16:54

So because you couldn't have a baby you went online to talk dirty to men? Hardly going to rekindle a relationship with your DP if you act like that and if he has even remotely picked up on how you feel about him are you surprised he wouldn't want a child? I know that may sound harsh but if you don't love him, like him or fancy him why would you have a child with him?

OrangesandLemonsNow · 20/06/2016 17:00

I think I have lost interest in my relationship because things haven't panned out properly what with no baby and no support from partner at that time him never wanting to socilaise and son not needing me anymore

Excuses excuses

Whiteplate1 · 20/06/2016 18:42

I am doing the same as you and am addicted. Similar age to you and also talking to young guys of 19 and 20 years old.

It is very addictive but if you want to stop you really need to go cold turkey but this is difficult as you enjoy it so much and also inevitably getting close to the guys.

It is an easy thing to fall into and I do sympathetise. I hope you are able to stop if that is what you truly want but going to take a huge amount of effort and willpower

Resilience16 · 21/06/2016 09:32

Hi Tevion, Google hypersexuality,you may find it interesting.

Whiteplate1 · 21/06/2016 18:06

I will take a look too thank you

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