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to be addicted to chatting to guys online

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tevion · 20/06/2016 14:56

I have developed a obsession with trying to find a man for a fling.
I have been with partner for 28 years with one ds aged 15.
I have no attraction to my partner and am bored.
I am 45 years of age and have chatted to men as young as 21 and had some really sexy talk and so much love it it makes me feel so good.
The conversations get really rude at times.
I have had offers to meet up but chicken out always as I am not sure what to do.
Please I really need to speak to somebody about this.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:13

what pat

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Zucker · 20/06/2016 15:13

Maybe you DH/DP would fancy a threesome, could work in the baby making at the same time!

sandrabedminster · 20/06/2016 15:14

You are cheating emotionally.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 20/06/2016 15:14

Would it help you to hear that most of these men on line are balding, unattractive, sweaty married men that lie to get casual sex?
You're living in a fantasy.

CrazyDuchess · 20/06/2016 15:14

Leave your poor DP

PrivatePike · 20/06/2016 15:15

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Pinkheart5915 · 20/06/2016 15:16

Was one of your other threads about your 40 year old "friend" chatting to a 19 yr old guy online, actually taking about yourself???

Seriously get hold of yourself either leave and keep your cheap frills or stay and treat you dp with some respect

branofthemist · 20/06/2016 15:16

You haven't always been like this but you are now.

Besides which, this is bullshit isn't it?

I have never done AS before but a few weeks ago you posted about a friend degrading herself doing this?

Did you not get the reaction you wanted so now doing a reverse to prove something?

PrivatePike · 20/06/2016 15:17

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Pinkheart5915 · 20/06/2016 15:20

Your very happy to start a thread saying your 40 yr old "friend" was so wrong for speaking to a 19 year old online but I've just read your OP again and your getting your kicks from talking to a 21 year old when your 45 Hmm pot calling kettle black I think!

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:20

yes I am messed up I know

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KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 15:20

Don't normally do a search but was intrigued if someone who wanted a baby (presumably with DP) that they would have to kind of find them attractive..

Kid was 8 in 2009 so reasonable the child is now 15 :)

Either way it's disgusting behaviour and OP should leave their DP.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:21

seriously I need constructive advice on what to do about my problem

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PatMullins · 20/06/2016 15:22

You haven't got a fucking problem, not one we can help you with anyway.

Pinkheart5915 · 20/06/2016 15:22

People have told you leave your dp so he can have somebody that respects him.
What did you expect people to say? Your talking dirty online to men when you have a dp and a child

branofthemist · 20/06/2016 15:23

You got it. Leave your DP.

Zucker · 20/06/2016 15:23

Constructive advice: disconnect your internet connection? Any use?

Pinkheart5915 · 20/06/2016 15:23

patMullins 👏 Absolutely!

KittensandKnitting · 20/06/2016 15:24

How to deal with your problem.

  1. leave your partner, be happy shagging anything you want
  1. Leave you partner spend as much time as you want talking dirty to men online.

Simples

its just not ok when you have a partner.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:24

look I don't blame any of you for what your saying at all I have just developed this problem and know its wrong but cant stop.

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:26

sorry if I upset people but life has just took a downward spiral in the last few weeks

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Sparklesilverglitter · 20/06/2016 15:28

Christ woman what did you expect people to say? You are talking dirty online to men showing a complete lack of respect for your dp.

I have advance searched and seen your other thread about 40 yr old single friend that talks to boy of 19 and you are apparently disgusted but your getting turned on with dirty talk to a guy of 21 online that makes him 6 years older than your Ds Hmm

branofthemist · 20/06/2016 15:29

So in the last 6 weeks you have gone from think your friend is degrading herself, doing this. To you doing it? And becoming obsessed with it?

Really?

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tevion · 20/06/2016 15:30

you know its been harsh on here but its made me think

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