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To think this house sitter was bloody cheeky?

818 replies

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 18/06/2016 23:38

My DM recently got a house sitter for 10 days whilst we all went on holiday. She had used her once before and all seemed fine. She seemed very professional - took detailed information about all the animals, signed contracts, she is fully insured etc.

She was supposed to sleep at my DM's house each night, although my DM was aware that she would need to pop back here and there to exercise her own dogs (she lives with her parents).

She was paid over £600, and for that she had to look after 2 dogs and feed a cat. There are also 2 horses at my mum's, my mum's horse who is a big cob, and my daughter's pony. She wasn't expected to do anything with the horses.

While we were away the house sitter emailed to ask if it would be ok if her partner's kids came to meet the horses. My DM said that was fine. When we got back, my mum had a good chat with her and the house sitter said that the kids had come over and groomed my mum's horse, but not my daughter's pony because she was grumpy (she is grumpy).

I was the first to go into the tack room, and noticed that the bridles weren't in the right place. I didn't really think anything of it. But today my DM said that there is grease on the bottom of her saddle, from where the saddle pad hasn't been put on properly and it has rubbed the horse, which she wouldn't do. Also her bridle had been done up all wrong. The stirrups on both saddles were at different lengths to how they'd been left by Us. She suspected that the house sitter had taken the kids riding on our horses. This was confirmed when she went for a ride around the village today and a neighbour (who has booked the same house sitter) said that the house sitter had emailed a picture with the kid sat on her horse!

Not only is riding someone's horses without their permission incredibly rude, it is also a really stupid thing to do. She knew nothing about our horses, they could have had any kind of quirks, and putting 2 kids on them (when she doesn't appear to know much about horses herself) was just bloody dangerous.

Not only that, but my DM said there's no way that the bed was slept in for 10 nights, so she suspects that the house sitter had left the dogs overnight which she wasn't supposed to do.

WWYD? I absolutely think that something should be said to the house sitter, but my DM is veering towards leaving it, and just locking the tack room if she uses her again! She was paid a lot of money, and in my opinion, took the piss.

OP posts:
PuckyMup · 20/06/2016 19:33

Poor kitty :(

I house sit and charge £10 per dog/per day (£5 per cat/other critter needing feeding/cleaning and £0 for keeping an eye on plants/horses etc just requiring watering) and I am in an expensive area - I think your mum was overcharged personally.

One of my house sitting pets recently (who is ancient) was iffy on his legs, even for the normal for him, so I let the owner know - I can assess the pets and use common sense but ultimately the owner needs to be involved in decisions. In this case, the owner was back the day after and we opted to wait and see, and he has rallied, but neither of us were prepared to ignore him to the point of suffering :(

mineofuselessinformation · 20/06/2016 19:39

I've been lurking, but felt I needed to say that you will probably find she's already blocked your DM.

ReadyPlayerOne · 20/06/2016 19:45

I was fuming on your behalf OP and that was before I read about your mums cat. This woman sounds like a thoroughly dishonest and unpleasant person, not to mention the thoughtless cruelty inflicted on the cat. I hope your mum gets her money back.

EweAreHere · 20/06/2016 19:46

That's awful, claira. I'm so sorry about your poor friend.

And a 'professional' house sitter should know better about ALL of it, from the riding a horse she doesn't have permission to ride, let alone put children on them!, to not checking on an elderly cat she's being paid to look after!

Nanny51 · 20/06/2016 19:49

Sorry, but you gave her too much rein😜
Totally irresponsible. God forbid something may have happened to either the children or the horse... Pretty sure her insurance would NOT have covered an accident as she used horse without consent. If you want to follow 'let's not make a fuss' then just don't use her again. But both the horse situation and leaving the dogs alone was not the deal.. Therefore she broke her end of the deal and was therefore paid for something she did not do.. I'd be livid.

Mummzymummy · 20/06/2016 19:51

I would have words with her, at the end of the day she's an employee and should be doing what she is paid to do. Also she's endangered not only her children but the horses, by taking them out. I would put it to her and see the response, if she's sorry genuinely, then leave it at that and turn over a fresh leaf. If it looks to fall on deaf ears then I wouldn't use her again.

clam · 20/06/2016 20:01

if she's sorry genuinely, then leave it at that and turn over a fresh leaf.

What, you think they should use her again????? Shock

MintyChops · 20/06/2016 20:09

Bloody hell, this is outrageous! Please could you PM me her details OP as I have friends in the south west who regularly get house sitters and I would hate them to get her (they have dogs and horses so she might come up in a search).

Thingamajiggy · 20/06/2016 20:12

I had a similar experience. A very professional seeming house sitter changed the cat's diet without mentioning it or asking us and she became so ill we thought she was going to die. Massive vet bills!

She also had be boyfriend staying (or living) we never found out.

Breakages also not mentioned.

I don't have any advice other than to write a negative review and be super careful next time!

Thingamajiggy · 20/06/2016 20:14

BTW what site did you find her on?- may have been the same one we used!

AprilSkies44 · 20/06/2016 20:20

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Darrelrivers · 20/06/2016 20:23

Haven't rttft but have we found out yet if beetroot is the house sitter? Can't believe the stupidity/arrogance of some people treating horses like machines to play with. I'll house sit and check horses/pick out hooves spray fly spray for £550 lol even though I'm allergic.

kali110 · 20/06/2016 20:33

Hope you get somewhere op. I'm really disgusted by her actions.
Your mom should not feel guilty for the cat Flowers

Thisismyfirsttime · 20/06/2016 20:33

Can you PM me too please OP? I don't live in the SW or use house sitters but I really really want to have a nose! Blush
I don't understand how she thinks this is ok, I'm not a horse person so there's no way I'd even know how to safely put riding gear on a horse, if she's even a bit horsey she must know it's a massive no no! If I were you I'd put a massive post on my own FB page naming her and listing what she did. Riding without permission, including children, using your equipment rendering it useless (you don't know no-one dropped a helmet, I don't know if other horse related stuff can be compromised in the sane way but if so list it), the cat being unwell and not being cared for, not staying as evidenced by the sodden bath mat, I'd bullet point it and not ramble but be very factual. And then ask people to share it so word gets around. Post it on her page and expect it to get deleted quite quickly but perhaps some people will see it before it goes. I don't think you'll get much by going via solicitors, perhaps a refund but it could get expensive. Hopefully this way other people will not use her. I'd leave out bits like the bed clearly not being slept in, she could say that's a lie but if the rest is true it's not libellous.

Thisismyfirsttime · 20/06/2016 20:35

I forgot to add a Grin, I don't really expect you to PM me for my nosing purposes!

Mummzymummy · 20/06/2016 20:36

Clam: I've only heard one side to this story. I try not to judge people until I hear both sides. It may be mis-communication.

clam · 20/06/2016 20:44

Even in the best-case scenario of mis-communication, I would not consider hiring anyone again who had broken my trust in this way.

And all MN threads are, naturally, one-sided.

TheseLittleEarthquakes · 20/06/2016 20:48

She's now taken the reviews option off her Facebook page...

Darrelrivers · 20/06/2016 20:49

You don't live in Surrey do you op?

clam · 20/06/2016 20:49

I bet she has. How did you find her FB page though? Did fluffyclouds PM you?

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/06/2016 20:51

£60 a day isnt bad, for 2 walks £10/12ph here) so that £20/25 and then £35/40 to sleepover and check/feed pets etc

regardless of that tho this sitter shouldnt be riding your dm horses, let alone using her equipment and wearing her clothes

my ex mb has horses and they need daily care with food, water, cleaning etc so am surprised no one really 'looked after' dm horses

sorry to hear about the cat, sounds to me sitter was neglectful in caring for them even if poorly

cant comment on bed, tho if staying 10 days i would change weekly

TheseLittleEarthquakes · 20/06/2016 20:52

Yes.

Darrelrivers · 20/06/2016 21:01

Near Esher by any chance?

clam · 20/06/2016 21:07

No, she said South West - England not SW London.

Darrelrivers · 20/06/2016 21:11

Ah thought I might have come across this person