Please give me the bollocking I deserve. I really lost it with my kids this morning.

[Lonnysera]

Am so ashamed and sad. I shouted, I said "for fucks sake" really loudly, I slammed the door, I stomped. I shouted at the top of my voice at DS2, I slapped DS3 on the bum. I shouted "I've bloody had enough,"

I'm crap at this.

Sounds like the kind of thing my mum would do and shout when I was a kid! Don't worry about it, try not to feel sad, clearly you love your kids!

Lonny please don't beat yourself up about this. This morning was a bad morning, and there have been many posters on this thread giving very practical advice. I can't do that, but what I can do is assure you that all parents lose their shit at times, do not butcher yourself. You are a good mum doing a hard job. These things happen.

Take a deep breath, onwards and upwards, and chances are your DCs will have forgotten all about this morning when they get home from school.

Do you have any support networks around you? Do you have any time to yourself?

Thankyou, all of you. I scrapped all my plans for today and had 3 crumpets and the emergency chocolate I had hidden in the cupboard, and then a good nap, and feel tons better.

I'm going to think about ways to streamline the mornings, even if it means setting the breakfast table the night before.

I don't think you need anger management or any books - unless they're to throw at judgemental mums.

We all lose it with our kids. You've identified it was too much and you're thinking about how to improve things. Not a bad outcome if you ask me.

The books are only there to give you ideas of how to improve things. You don't have to follow them.

Glad you are feeling better, Lonnysera.

The best 'book' I had was a TAMBA leaflet that said you can't look after other people without looking after yourself first.

Three crumpets and the emergency chocolate! And no gin? Good girl! You don't need any advice from us, you have it cracked.

Lonny getting everything done the night before is the only way to go.

I have packed school bags with jackets and shoes next to them laid out in the hall.
School uniform laid out in their rooms.
Packed lunches ready in the fridge.
All my own clothes etc laid out
Breakfast dishes set on the table.

Also no tv in the morning works for us too.

Good luck tomorrow.