ABIU for telling her she can't see her grandson.

[Mummytomydumplingxx]

My OH mother smashed up mothers day stuff from DD over a blow up bed am I being ABIU for telling her that is disgusting for her to do that and take it out on a 5 months old baby for an argument over a blow up bed?

FIL came to see us before this happened but if she tells him he can't see DS then he won't come and I have 2 children one from a pervious relationship and I mistakenly put DD instead of DS

OP, she seems to want to have a petty gripe against you and she will act on it, violently.

If your DH has grown up with this, he won't realise how bad this behaviour is and how damaging it is to have around your children.

He will need your support, to view his Mother for what she is and protect your children from her.

I haven't posted about her before lol I have had a post about my mother but that was last year

Someone else then, sorry.

She does sound unhinged, it's not normal to do that, especially to gifts from kids. I'd keep clear of her.

I recognise the he's too but can't think of the back story.

So op and her partner borrow an air bed from mil.

Mil is given mothers days presents from the grandchild

Op buys a bed and mil is furious she isn't immediately told, smashes the presents and sends a photo disowning her son.

Op I never say this but your mil is a fruit loop. Stay far far away. And don't give it head space, it is her loss

If what RJnomore1 has summarised is actually what happened (I have no idea from OP's posts) then YANBU.

However, YABU to drip feed in such a confusing way and not to use full stops often enough.

I posted the original post before I had finished it and couldn't find how to edit it and as for the full stops that is poor grammar on my part I do apologise.

Oh god, PLEASE use punctuation! Seriously. This makes you sound unhinged, the stream of consciousness....

Never been good with punctuation I have dyslexia .

It doesn't sound like she's up for having a relationship anyway, does it? Not if you're all dead to her etc.

I wouldn't have my children around someone who was violent, either. I think you've made the only decision you can, in the circumstances.

It's a pity.

Don't worry about grammar :)

I get this, just cut contact.

I suspected dyslexia, OP, but didn't want to ask. Pay no heed to people criticising your grammar. I understand what you've been saying. She sounds horrible and I hope your poor husband finds the strength to get away from her.

I know you bought the presents, but they should have been a lovely keepsake of when she became a grandmother. The kids used to love it when I showed them the stuff they bought me, when they were babies. They're lovely keepsakes of a special time.

If a man did this no one would suggest he was mentally ill. They'd just think he was a nasty bully and it sounds like that's all she is. Just be aware that, if you break contact, she'll send her 'flying monkeys' to harass you. They are people that usually do her biding, ie her husband, and they will do it to get her off their backs.

And your comment makes you sound awful, Alice.

I think Mothers day is this weekend in America

First Sunday in May.

Is that you Sharon?

This is hard going! But I get the gist (I think)

She does not sound like someone I would want around my DS, and as she has only see her GC a few times since birth, it shouldn't be too hard to keep her away from them!

Sounds like your FIL needs to grow a pair though, my DF would never give up seeing his grand children no matter what my DM said/did!

Its weirdly manipulative, attention seeking and tantrumish to destroy a present, decapitate a stuffed toy and post pictures of it, whatever the perceived provocation or course of events

I would be very worried about this persons ability to maintain appropriate relationships, and while, if she was a close relative of mine might keep heavily boundaried contact myself, I would not be confident she would interact appropriately with my child.

Don't hesitate op, ignore her, ignore the messages and don't let her anywhere near you and your child again. Its not your job to try and fix this - and see the thread ' You cant communicate with batshit'

Stay away from her. She's shown herself to be unstable by her actions, not a suitable role model for your children.

Don't contact her. Hopefully your partner will see that her behaviour is not normal and support you in going no contact.

Oh god, PLEASE stop acting like a dickhead Alice!

Wtf is sharon

Is it ozzy Osborne.......SHARONNNNNN

Sharon and the wasp? that Sharon??