ABIU for telling her she can't see her grandson.

[Mummytomydumplingxx]

My OH mother smashed up mothers day stuff from DD over a blow up bed am I being ABIU for telling her that is disgusting for her to do that and take it out on a 5 months old baby for an argument over a blow up bed?

But did you not say you lent her the bed??

She phoned today about the bed and because we never told her we had finished with it we got our bed two days ago she had ago at my OH and sent the photo of she mothersday gifts smashed up today like she was pleased with herself over it

That stuffed toy has creepy eyes. The mil is crazy. Stay away from her!

She sounds like a nasty fucker, OP. That's the kind of thing my NC sister would do. Keep your child away from her.

Did the gf say anything when he collected the mattress?

Her laminate's laid wrong. That I do know.

The Grandad just came to the door and said air bed please then told my OH to sort it out with his mum then left

You have two children, one with current partner. You both borrowed a blow up bed until you could get a proper bed. His mother feels you didn't return blow up bed in a timely fashion so has destroyed gifts. Is that right?

Protect both children and go NC

walter the OP borrowed the blow up bed from the loopy Mil. She has confused the grammar of borrow/lend, that's all.

Oh.

I should have realised.

Yes that's right penfold007 I guess I haven't really made it clear as to what as happened and I am sorry for that I'm still annoyed at what she has done and ranting and not making it clear

I recognise this style of writing OP. The use of 'he's' instead of 'his' is ringing bells.

Odd.

Your MIL needs psychiatric help. It does look as if she hacked the stuffed animal, or ripped it apart. If this is the way she has always behaved then it might be hard for her to accept that she needs help. Her DH may not be able to get through to her how abnormal she is or he may have got used to it after all this time.

Please don't bother getting in touch with her ever again, Mummytomydumpling. You are better off without her around your baby. Don't respond to her texts or photos of damage. She is looking for your attention and trying to get you hooked into a merry go round of anger and response. Ignore her. Live your lives as best you can without her.

This will be hard for your OH, but hopefully he will see the wisdom of it. It will be hard for your OH's dad too, but maybe he could see his grandchild on his own, or maybe this will be a wake up call for him that his wife is unhinged and he needs to push her to sort out the problem.

(Waltermitty - some people reverse the meaning of borrow and loan).

It looks like she's only just opened the presents, there is wrapping paper just above the decapitated rabbit thingy. Why is she opening presents sent in March today?

I have nothing against OH dad seeing DS but he wouldn't see him if she said he couldn't OH has told me that he's dad had told he's mum that he wants to leave and she had threatened that if he does he wouldnot see he's DDS she is very controlling and freaks out if she doesn't get her own way I have seen this when I stayed at her home when OH started dating

That wasn't wrapping paper that was a nanny certificate thing I got and wrote happy 1st mothers day as being my nanny love you lots and lots on it

Who's Sharon?

This is definitely odd though.

You would be U if you had contact with her again. Being dead to her is pretty good place to be imo. Your DH needs protecting from this loon. Help him cut her out of his life.

how many children do you have OP?

I'm confused as hell - do you have a DS or a DD?

If she never see's 'him' what difference would it make

Airbeds are £15 in Asda - buy one then you don't need hers

What is with the buying mother's day tat for her from an 8 week old

she had done nothing to your 'ds' by the way I am sure 'he' couldn't give a tiny rats ass

Whatever happens next. Whether your OH can stand up to her, enough to go NC, don't ever leave the children with her, she too volatile.

Does going NC, mean that your FIL is cut off too, or doesn't he make an effort, anyway?

Stop making any sort of effort, your children don't need this shit, in their lives.

Has she ever t-rexed in Asda?

It's hard to cut people out of your life especially your mum I will try and help him though as I know that if he doesn't she will get worse

""What is with the buying mother's day tat for her from an 8 week old""

I got stuff 'from' my 3 month old GD, as did her GGMs, for our first Mother's Day. It's not unusual.

ptumbi I agree! I recognise the writing style too.

OP have you posted about her before? I've got vague memories about an argument and somebody hiding shoes when you lived with her?