To not have sister to stay during DD's first week at nursery?

[LadyAntonella]

My sister is at university and is sitting her last exam (of the year) in June. Dsis asked ages ago if she could come to stay with DH, DD and me for a few days after her exams finish which was (and is) fine with us. We are going on a short holiday starting one week after Dsis's last exam (this was booked long ago, before Dsis asked to come to stay; Dsis was aware of it) and DD (18mo) is due to start nursery the week after we get back.

I have told Dsis she can either come in the week immediately after her exam (before we go on holiday) or else after DD's first week at nursery. DSis is a bit miffed and said I am "making her wait too long". She doesn't want to stay with us immediately after her exam as she wants to spend that time with her bf. This is fair enough obviously, and I don't mind, but just think DD might find someone coming to stay a bit disruptive during her first week at nursery... Am I being massively precious? DD is my PFB so expect I might be! She does know my Dsis obviously but they haven't seen each other in person for a while.

TIA

YANBU. DC started nursery at around the same age and it was a really difficult week for me, as well as DC. Some DC cope well with the transition to nursery while others need a more gentle approach and take longer to settle in. DC is now loving nursery but it was hard! I wouldn't have wanted house guests during that time. I wouldn't have house guests the following week either though because no doubt your DC will have picked up a bug of some sort.

Either DSis comes to stay week immediately after exams or else leave it a few weeks til after your DC is settled in at nursery.

And it is not being PFB either FFS! Jees everything these days is considered PFB. The transition to nursery is a huge change in a baby's life - they have to get used to a new environment, being away from mum (which is a huge thing considering LadyA's DC has up til this point been always with mum), getting used to the nursery workers, sampling the new food in nursery, adjusting to napping in the same room as other toddlers, etc. I think it's only fair that if LadyA decides the week of starting nursery is too stressful to have house guests, then that is ok and most certainly not PFB.

YANBU. Starting nursery is a big deal for your DD and for you (I was in tears every day that first week after dropping off my pfb 2 year old!) I'd say it's totally fair that with one big change happening in your DD's life you want to keep everything else that week pretty much routine. I would want to have all my brain space free to focus on my ds starting nursery (but I suffer with anxiety so your brain space may be more capacious than mine!)

Thank you again all. I am hopeful Dsis will come during week before our holiday with her bf so she doesn't miss out on time with him. We are very close, but occasionally she isn't the best person to have around if I'm already a bit anxious. I haven't met her bf yet, so it would be nice to have them both to stay during that week immediately after the exams.

^^I'm sure the above is the case for most siblings. Usually get on brilliantly but sometimes stress each other out.

Hmm.
I think it will be fine, but I would think twice if, for example, your DD will be bumped out of her bedroom and in with you, in her first week in nursery.
You will want to set up a routine, not have anyone asking you how to use the coffee machine just as you are getting breakfast and packing the bag, and you and DD may well feel more tired than usual.

If your DSis is sensitive and a good house guest, fine, go ahead. If she is needy, doesn't understand parenting and stays up all night drinking tequila slammers, make her wait a week,

Ds's first day at nursery I seem to remember going home,thinking i had loads of jobs to do and then thinking sod it and crashing out for a few hours of untroubled sleep... It was bliss

So if you think that you might be tempted by the siren call of a pillow and no dc to wake you up then put your sis off. If you can hold out then invite her!