Isn't that how it should be? Women shouldn't consider themselves "lucky" to have a partner who helps out - shouldn't that be the norm?
I was talking to two friends recently - one has two children, is a SAHM and from day 1 her DH has not lifted a finger to help with the kids or around the house. He "works very hard" during the week so that means he has to spend his weekends relaxing and pursuing his hobbies (rather than spending time with his children) while she never gets a break. She works pretty damn hard too, to raise two children during the week yet is lucky if she gets half an hour in Asda by herself, and if she needs anything she has to ask him for money as they don't have a joint bank account.
Other friend (WOHM 4 days a week) has a DP who works once a fortnight, looks after their DD once a week and she goes to nursery on the other 3 days my friend works. Yet if their DD is ill my friend has to take time off work as her DP refuses to look after her. Likewise at weekends he refuses to do childcare and he doesn't help out around the house either as he's very busy watching TV or playing computer games. He isn't exactly a cocklodger as he's independently well-off, but if my friend ever asks him to do more than his allocated day of childcare he points out that she's the one who wanted a child, not him, so she has to deal with it!
I really don't understand how some men can be like this, and it saddens me that their partners think it normal and that they just have to put up with it.