I'm NOT fat

[TheJollyPostmansWife]

Name change as about to give all details as too late to text friends for advice. Visiting DHs family today, out for lunch where I had a prawn salad. After I finished I reached over to nick a bit of my dds bread and as I did so My DHs grandmother piped up 'not watching your figure then?'. This is not the first time she has been rude about my weight and to be honest I am really pissed off. We see them very rarely and I don't think she has any right to make personal comments at all - last time she said something she suggested I would lose my looks and therefore my husband if I carried on the way I was. I don't think it's important as I don't think anyone should comment on others appearance but for context I go to the gym 3-5 times a week, walk the dog at least an hour every day and see a personal trainer weekly. I am five foot one, 9 stone 3 and size 8. I'm not normally so sensitive but I don't want to see the woman again, she is elderly and not in good health and adores my dds. Aibu to refuse to see her? I would never stop the dds but we live the other side of the country which is obviously limiting.

[HelenaDove]

Thankyou Proteus and Lurked

[HelenaDove]

YY Rookie Slimming World flogs hifi bars but i never touch them.

[KatieKaboom]

Yep. Proteus was really bloody rude to OP on the first page. Hence the reaction.

[GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER]

Old people can often become outspoken and sound rude. An elderly relative of Dh's was terrible - e.g. once saying at the top of her voice during a pub lunch, 'WHY DOES THAT WAITRESS WEAR SUCH A SHORT SKIRT WITH LEGS LIKE THAT?' Just one example. She didn't have dementia, which is when it can often get a million times worse.

Honestly, just ignore it or try to laugh it off. Not worth getting steamed up over. She might have just said it for something to say - I'm trying to be charitable here. Even if you think she was deliberately having a go, console yourself by thinking how glad you are that you're not an ancient old baggage with not too much time left.

[HelenaDove]

And after all the advice she KEPT asking for (which ive discussed on the previous page of this thread) shes now doing another VLCD!


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