Upstairs neighbour's kid !!!

[RebelRogue]

My upstairs neighbours let their (nearly 2yo i think?!?) play on the balcony unsupervised. Every now and then the mum will shout "x noooo...nooo...NO!" But not actually do anything else. He throws balls,clothes,dummies,sand(my balcony is full of it) and anything else he can get his hands on in my garden. I normally just throw/give it back and didn't want to make too much fuss. Today i was on the balcony having a fag,feet on the rail when water started falling down and got my feet wet.Again the mum was just nooo..nooo. I got up and looked....he was bloody peeing!! On my feet!! I went totally mad and told her to watch her kid properly and that from now on,all the shit that's theirs in my garden goes straight in the bin. AIBU.

Certainly you should stop giving things back. Put your rubbish bin under the balcony for it, and chuck all your own rubbish in too.

wow op yanbu

Ha! Yanbu at all. I would not allow this to happen with my 2 year old. They're a pain in the arse but you can't just let them piss on people really. It's basic stuff.

"Do you have children?"

Does having children mean you're ok with other people's pissing on you?

Have a bit of compassion, it sounds like she is doing her best.

Since when does saying 'nooo' with zero other action equate to doing your best? Even a 'no you mustn't do that because it might hit and hurt someone' would be better

She did the bare minimum.

Sounds awful - have you seen the neighbour since?

This child and his "parent" sound absolutely bloody revolting. Doing her best, my arse!

CodyKing nope

User the child is very young..i don't find him revolting,just annoying but i accept that he doesn't know any better. My grief is not with him,but with his parents.

If she wanted to stop her toddler going on the balcony and essentially throwing things off she would barricade it off.

Toddlers and balconies do not mix.

Yanbu OP. Hopefully when she has to start buying more toys, dummies etc to replace what he has thrown she will start actually parenting

I love how some posters have to tell the OP they're being unreasonable, no matter what

Yes, OP. You smoke, therefore you deserve to be pissed on by a toddler. They're just expressing their disapproval. The solution is to never smoke again, not to get the parents to control their child!

Just yesterday's stash

Is your neighbour council or HA or private? Kids being kids or not, the mum is not paying attention. You have the right not to be pissed on or have things thrown into your garden area. I've had to deal with a parent who's child threw glass placemats onto the area below her. Highly dangerous for the people below and definitely needed reporting. What if it's something similar dropped on you next time? I'd say you should report it if possible. Older kids dripping or kicking balls into people's gardens is one thing but a 2 year old needs supervising and has no idea what's dangerous to drop and what isn't. The mother needs to be made to supervise better.

Smokeybandit council,but the building belongs to a HA. He threw a broom over last week...i was actually quite impressed once i got over it lol

That's ridiculous. Letting a toddler unsupervised on a balcony is irresponsible. My youngest is 6 and I still keep very close eyes on him if he is near a balcony or open window.

Shouting no is not parenting.

YANBU.

If he can throw things over the balcony that's actually pretty dangerous as it won't be long before he tries to climb it to get the stuff back!

Very dangerous. I would definitely be putting everything in the bin. Anything to discourage the situation. Also getting kissed on is disgusting and I would have been fuming. She would have gotten a mouthful off me I'd probably have regretted. No idea why posters are saying it's ok.

No idea why posters are saying it's ok.

Because "it sounds like the mother is doing her best to stop him throwing things"

But really it's because this AIBU and for some unknown reason it seems to be a trend to brand the OP unreasonable no matter what the circumstances

Do you have children?. What the hell does that mean? I have children; this doesn't mean I'd tolerate someone else's child pissing off their balcony into mine
And how does it sound like the mum is "doing her best"?? She could be sitting on her sofa having a fag while she's saying No, don't do that.
Her best should be a whole lot better.

How is he out there unsupervised if mum is saying "no" when he throws things? She must be watching him.

MrsHardy1 good point,i guess it wasn't a good choice of words. Basically she's inside doing whatever,and yes she still can see him at least when she tells him no, but doesn't actually come out or does anything when he's doing something he's not supposed to.

Yanbi

I'm not sure how I would react to being pissed on, but it certainly wouldn't be pleasantly.

I agree with those who say this child's mother is being useless. Not having access to a garden is no excuse to allow you child to continually irritate the neighbours.

The child is two and needs supervision on a balcony at all times, earlier this week a small child fell from the window of the flats behind my home. Luckily they only had minor injuries but it could have been much worse.

My son younger son is three and autistic, he throws things continually. If we lived in a flat with a balcony I know this would become his number one activity if he were allowed to. He wouldn't be though because I would be supervised and removed from the balcony every time he tried it.

of course that's not ok.

what of he throws bigger or heavier/harder stuff and it hits the cars or hurts someone else on another balcony.

having a 2 yr old is not an excuse to not have any effort in dicipline amd assuming "no" is enough.

both mine had time.outs ay that age. it's called parting she should try it sone time.

and the peeing is revolting.

if my child was doing that she'd have been banned from.the balcony until she could stop being revolting

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