when someone says 'I need the sick bucket'...

[WiddlinDiddlin]

AIBU to expect that these words or indeed any phrase containing the words 'sick bucket' and an indication that one may be required in the immediate future, be responded to with some urgency?

Last night I had to get out of bed emergency style and to do this, I had to wake OH and get him to move out of the way.

As I got out I said 'I think I will need the sick bucket'.. and hurtled off to the loo.

After a while it turned out I was correct but no sick bucket had appeared, in the end I had to shout (very hard when about to spew and then, actually whilst spewing) and bang on the wall before he stirred himself and came AMBLING out of the bedroom, no haste, no hurry at all, to give me the sick bucket.

I have always considered the magical words 'sick bucket' to be a trigger for INSTANT action, immediacy, hurtling and zooming, something one doesn't even THINK about ... but OH claims not so.

So - are these words cause for urgency or is it acceptable to 'fetch it later' or 'in a minute' or 'when you have a mouthful of vom and are grunting and banging on the wall to avoid splattering the floor'...

This is not a rare occurrence in our house, I do spew quite frequently, we have had this discussion MANY times and of course, if I can I grab the appropriate receptacle on my way to the loo. In the interests of not drip-feeding, no we can't keep a sick bucket in the loo it is too small, it generally lives in the bedroom but out of my reach, and our loo and bathroom are separate so I can't spew in the sink whilst pointing my arse at the loo

DS1 used to get very car sick, sometimes we'd put him in the front seat as it's better for people with car sickness. Ds aged about 4 shouts that he's going to be sick. DH pulls over quickly and then just sits there. I'm in the back with the child locks on and can't get out. I say I can get out. DH still sitting there and then DS1 pukes his load in the car. I took DS2 for some fresh air and left the idiot to deal with it.

oops . I wasnt the first to think of that pragmatic solution then...

YABU. As an able bodied adult you don't need a spectator. I have a little metal pedal bin with a plastic bucket liner in my tiny bathroom, could that work? You can whip the becket out when needed and it multi functions as a bin the rest of the time so doesn't look odd.

I appreciated your post, Thing I seem to be developing a new love affair with collapsible bowls I don't need.

Since OP has told us her DH gets carer's allowance to look after her, these "man up, you able-bodied wimp" comments look very stupid.

• woman up, obvs.

You have a condition that means you suffer with sickness and diarrhoea on a regular basis? Keep vomit bucket handy.
I have asthma. I keep my inhaler close.
You are an adult.

glad my epically slow google efforts didnt go completely to waste Garlic

Can't you just keep the dog downstairs so it doesn't chew anything and keep it on your side of the bed?

I don't think your husband is responsible for being on red alert even when he's asleep every time you feel sick. Could you order some sick bags of the type available on planes and keep some under your pillow. Expecting him to leap up at a moments notice to grab a possibly full recycling bin and bring it to you is I'm afraid unreasonable. You could also leave some of the sick bags by the loo for if you make it that far. But why should two people be bothered by this?

OP stated she 'hurtled' to the bathroom which suggests she has a degree of mobility, you can have a medical condition and it not affect rushing to the bathroom. Able bodied was maybe the wrong phrase so I apologise for that but the suggest was she can get there herself without aid therefore can organise a bucket or receptacle close by and throw up without an audience

Both my DC have a sick bowl under there beds as they are late teens.....I ain't taking any changes when they need them after drinking

*chances

Jeez I am starting to regret this thread!

The lighthearted point of this thread is the reaction to the words 'sick bucket' - most people react by rushing to help, my OH see's no real urgency.

The extraneous details about my life were to put that into context, thats all.

The suggestion of sick bags was BRILLIANT as are the collapsible bowls (but erm Garlic, as the expert on these.. how clean can you get those.. won't bits of .... errrr ew.. get. um.. ick)..

Is it so intensely difficult to RTFT? It might be unreasonable in another relationship, but my OH is also my carer, sometimes I do need help of various natures which I won't be going into here.

correction I did not hurtle, I was being somewhat hyperbolic in a misguided attempt to be amusing and convey the haste with which I needed to get to the loo (for the THIRD time, the first two times I hadn't felt sick. In case thats important to anyone).

The reality is more like a stagger/wobble/crumple in direction of loo.

Unless in my wheelchair and going downhill I am singularly incapable of hurtling anywhere at all. (However when going downhill in wheelchair I am SPECTACULAR at hurtling. So there.)

Carer doesn't mean you stop looking after yourself in ways you can though. If you need a bucket near the loo then keep one there.

YANBU. Sick bucket means FAST.

OH now states that it was the introduction of an element of doubt, that because I said 'I might need the sick bucket' and not 'I will need the sick bucket'.. his reaction is justified

Lesson 1 It is better to provide a sick bucket that is not needed, than to not provide one and find it was needed!

Ah for the love of whoever - anyone would think I had the poor guy out of bed every single night for the last ten years.

At what point did I make out he does every single thing for me?

If it interests the prosecution yer 'onour, he also spends approximately 6 hours a day playing computer games, farting and pretending he no longer knows how to use the vacuum cleaner.

I shall from now on be placing sick bags and collapsible bowls all around the house and car so that I never disturb the poor little flower ever again. I consider myself told!

Can I make a suggestion? Could you put a hook on the wall and either hook a bucket with a handle OR a bag of paper sick bags?

Bloody hell Widdlin that'll teach you to put 'LIGHTHEARTED!!!!' in the thread title!

I think it is awful of him. Obviously you need to LTB now. Sick bucket situation requires all hands on deck unless you want your floor covered in vomit!

To all the posters that are saying the OP should do it herself, would you SERIOUSLY refuse to provide said receptacle to your loved ones in their hour of need?!

YANBU the phrase 'sick bucket' should be immediately acted upon!

Yanbu. Because I am the default sick clearer upper. It's in my interest to provide it

*Bloody hell Widdlin that'll teach you to put 'LIGHTHEARTED!!!!' in the thread title! grin

I think it is awful of him. Obviously you need to LTB now. Sick bucket situation requires all hands on deck unless you want your floor covered in vomit!*

I know, what was I thinking.

I have discussed the issue with him and he begs me not to release him into the wild and promises he will put up a hook to hang our shiny new collapsible bowl on -though its almost certainly me that will end up doing that-

I don't know if that was taking the piss or not but it was just a suggestion to help.