when someone says 'I need the sick bucket'...

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AIBU to expect that these words or indeed any phrase containing the words 'sick bucket' and an indication that one may be required in the immediate future, be responded to with some urgency?

Last night I had to get out of bed emergency style and to do this, I had to wake OH and get him to move out of the way.

As I got out I said 'I think I will need the sick bucket'.. and hurtled off to the loo.

After a while it turned out I was correct but no sick bucket had appeared, in the end I had to shout (very hard when about to spew and then, actually whilst spewing) and bang on the wall before he stirred himself and came AMBLING out of the bedroom, no haste, no hurry at all, to give me the sick bucket.

I have always considered the magical words 'sick bucket' to be a trigger for INSTANT action, immediacy, hurtling and zooming, something one doesn't even THINK about ... but OH claims not so.

So - are these words cause for urgency or is it acceptable to 'fetch it later' or 'in a minute' or 'when you have a mouthful of vom and are grunting and banging on the wall to avoid splattering the floor'...

This is not a rare occurrence in our house, I do spew quite frequently, we have had this discussion MANY times and of course, if I can I grab the appropriate receptacle on my way to the loo. In the interests of not drip-feeding, no we can't keep a sick bucket in the loo it is too small, it generally lives in the bedroom but out of my reach, and our loo and bathroom are separate so I can't spew in the sink whilst pointing my arse at the loo

to your dh.

To further clarify (gosh this is harder than I thought)...

He has to sleep on the outside edge of the bed, he has a CPAP machine and thats the only place it will go and he has to be right next to it.

Yes he is fully aware that when I have a 'middle of the night' emergency it almost always involves both ends.

On this occasion he was out of bed and standing up with eyes open, CPAP mask OFF and looking at me as I said 'I think I will need the sick bucket'... so definitely awake and aware.

And then instead of assisting he got back into bed and promptly fell asleep again.

Oh and .. he gets carers allowance, so technically he does get paid to help me with such dramas!

Just keep it next to the toilet. If the room only contains a loo, how can it realistically get in the way?

You are able bodied but have a condition that often causes you to vomit?

And this is your dh's problem how?

Be grateful that he will even share a bed and bedroom with you imo.

Sorry this thread is just too niche for me.

Yeah, stick it in the loo. The dog can't get it and it's always there should you need it. Put it sideways on the floor at the side of the toilet.

You need to keep it in the toilet. Put up a shelf above the cistern or something. Sorry you're in poor health but it shouldn't be a two man job to sort it out.

OP, I get what you are saying and it seemed to me to light hearted? I think you are getting a bit of a hard time!

Also, what about having paper sick bags with the loo rolls on the window ledge?

Not able bodied no Bibbitybobbity... I posted i have lots of things wrong with me that make spewing and squitting normal for me.. what leads you to assume I am healthy and able bodied?

Hermione - we did that, Rampant Bastard Lurcher ate three sick buckets before we decided that didn't work - it is a REALLY tiny loo, theres space for the loo brush one side (NOT putting the sick bucket next to that) and a tiny slim-line bin the other side, all of which is within reach of RBL.

We COULD fit a lock to the door however its a narrow dark terraced house and if we keep the bathroom and toilet doors shut, the upstairs landing is really dark and dingy, also then theres next to no airflow through the upstairs of the house which makes it AWFUL in weather like this.

Am pondering some sort of shelf ... awkward space to put one in though... hmm.

Would sick bags work? Could you have them in a dispenser, mounted on the wall?

I don't know why posters are being rude to you, why the hell wouldn't your dh share a bed with you? What a horrid thing to say.

Sheesh, what happened to a bit of compassion and caring for your loved ones? YANBU - since the alternative is you puking or shitting on the floor.

We have a sink next to a toilet but I still always leap out of bed to check if DH needs anything if he's sick, because it's miserable.

Er yes this was meant to be a bit lighthearted about peoples reactions to the words 'sick bucket' tbh, not an indepth critique of my health and relationship with OH (11 years together this summer, all is fine!)

But this is MN and I knew the risks so hey ho! :)

MotherofGlob - OOH!... I like THAT idea... ah ha! What er, sort of capacity do such things have and er, how robust might they be.. I tend to vom quite violently and er, lots... hmm, I have never researched such things before!

I meant able to get out of bed and get to the toilet unaided.

See, this is so much more complicated than your OP makes out.

Arf at too niche.....

Anyway, I hope you're feeling a bit better now OP. Get a second bucket just in case?

I'm sorry you feel sick often enough that you need a system in place to cope with it. However it sounds like the system you have isn't working and you need to figure out how to be more self-sufficient for vom-attacks in the middle of the night. Could you have a stash of emergency sick-bags in the loo? Or put a shelf up in the loo for the basin, or hang it from a hook?

My sister has a collapable water bowl for her dog, would something like than be an option?

bibbity do you know something we don't?

Not sure why you're getting a hard time op, Yanbu!

Excuse me for the horrid thing to say. I am posting from the pov of a person who is pretty disabled by severe emetophobia, and a chronic insomniac to boot. I just can't imagine how nice I would be if dh woke me up regularly shouting at me to produce a sick bucket.

Despite all of op's lengthy explanations, I still can't quite understand why it takes two to produce said sick bucket.

Not sure of the capacity but there is even a dispenser for them!

www.purpleturtle.co.uk/acatalog/Poorly-Pouch-Sick-Bag-Dispenser-1958.html?gclid=CNOI-qrhm80CFY9uGwodTFoLJA

Other than that, what about a few 'bag for life' style carrier bags?

I was just going to suggest one of these bowls but I see Zachary beat me to it.

Even comes in a choice of colours to match the decor.

What about a hook on the back of the door where you can hang the bowl?

Yanbu op. If I uttered the words im going to be sick, my dh would up like a shot helping me hold my hair back, give me a glass of water and rubbing my back if needed

get a metal one...that solves the dog problem.

I cannot be sick down the toilet, just cannot do it.

The logistics don't matter - size of loo, where anyone sleeps, how often it happens etc. If I am ill in the night - or indeed the day - and I need some help, it is my partner's job to give me said help in a timely manner. That is his role. To support me in my time of need.

It's a two-way street - I am there for all of his sick bucket needs. I'm there for all my boy's sick bucket needs. My boy brings me a glass of water if I feel poorly. We do these things for each other, and we do them straight away.

It's what families do, regardless of size of loo.

YANBU. And I'm sorry you are ill so much.

Sounds awful, Op, you have my sympathy.
Whilst there isn't room on the windowsill for the erm receptacle', there would surely be room for a few emergency-use plastic bags, e,g, nappy bags, that would solve the 'both ends' issue?
( issue- see what I did there? )

I shouted sick bucket last night too - in a room full of fast asleep old women (am in hospital with pneumonia) sick bucket arrived just in the nick of time