to wonder if you hold a grudge?

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

I've never been a regular but I used to post on here a few years ago (namechanged since). On one thread I had a disagreement with another poster, fair enough it happens.

But said poster then followed me twice and made snide comments. It put me off posting and actually quite upset me at the time.

I've just seen two posters get into quite a personal argument. So I wondered if they would remember each other on different threads and be inclined to take against each other again.

What do you think? AIBU to think that other people do this, or was I just unlucky before?

See one of the things I hate most in life and by extension mn is why people personally insult people. I can have massive disagreements with people about the absolute most emotive subjects and It would never occur to me to insult them.

my opinion of them as a person has nothing to do with the subject we disagree about.

That doesn't mean there are not people who Iv decided are horrible people whom I want nothing to with! I still don't insult them though!

I hold grudges in real life. Letting them go means whoever's wronged you has got away with it

On MN, no. Vaguely irritated by idiots but that's it. There are posters I ignore even if they've finally managed to make a sensible point.

I used to be surprised by the malice when you do see someone pop up with a comment like "well, you said xxx on the other thread so I don't think people should respond to you". The posters who do that though tend to be long-term Mumsnetters; the cool girl gang who feel safe in their clique. Ironically, as they're doing so on an internet forum, we can guess they're anything but cool!

It felt good to say that! I felt very sorry for someone the other day who seemed to be being followed around while a long term poster made sarky replies to everything they said, however unrelated it was. In real life I can't stand bullies and have the confidence to challenge it.

Holding grudges is hard to do effectively though. Colleague: Hey, pax, you coming for a drink? I should say: No, because you are a misogynistic pig and always let rip over a pint. Remember how you spoke tome last time? I do say: Sorry, I'm busy. So he did sort of get away with it.

So is name changing a kind of way to be mean and get away with it?

it can be. But I name change as I know my sil (who I don't get on) with try's to find my posts on here. She has mentioned a few times that she had found me on mn, it's not actually been me on any occasion.

shovetheholly this is pretty much why I don't - who can be arsed?!