to wonder if you hold a grudge?

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

I've never been a regular but I used to post on here a few years ago (namechanged since). On one thread I had a disagreement with another poster, fair enough it happens.

But said poster then followed me twice and made snide comments. It put me off posting and actually quite upset me at the time.

I've just seen two posters get into quite a personal argument. So I wondered if they would remember each other on different threads and be inclined to take against each other again.

What do you think? AIBU to think that other people do this, or was I just unlucky before?

Indeed. I suspect I have disagreed with you once or twice worra, and you with me.

There are definitely some who hold grudges against me. They crop up the odd time just to make snidey comments which really just make them look bad.

I don't tend to bear grudges against random people on the Internet. They're just not that important in my life.

And yes, I will agree with some people on one thread and disagree on another. Someone did once have a go at me because I agreed with her on a thread though. She didn't want to believe that we could share an opinion on something because she disliked some of my opinions on other threads. Bizarre.

I hold grudges in real life, though I try very hard not to because it's sooo bad for you.

But on here? Nah. Might be because I often hide a thread if it is really getting my back up so if someone is rude I don't see it!

No. I have been called names on the SN board so I try to avoid it now. I have debated with people on some topics and agreed with those same people or had a friendly chat on other threads. Most people can be mature about things.

in real life if someone pisses me off then yes I do hold a grudge, online no cant be arsed

I don't hold a grudge as such and I'd never following someone around the boards saying stuff but there are a few posters who spout such shite I will simply avoid reading anything they post. I'd never recognise anyone through a NC though. I have no idea who anyone recognises posting styles at all!

Never had it happen to me but then I don't think I have ever posted anything hugely offensive to anyone.

RL is a different matter!

Indeed. I suspect I have disagreed with you once or twice worra, and you with me

I strongly dispute that, Pagwatch

I do need to come up with a firm yet polite reply for aggressive PMs. A friendly "fuck off", they took the trouble writing to me after all and I just ignored.

I don't hold a grudge but definitely remember certain posters and steer clear of them.

The poster who said it was thanks to people like me that two women a week are murdered by their partners in the UK because I dared to criticise Lundy Bancroft book sticks in my mind.

I have seen what you say before. Its also weird when posters go digging for old threads you said or they simply suspect is you then try troll you for it. I seen this several times.

In real life though I am slightly a grudge holder it isn't good though though, it hurts you more then the person you have a grudge against.

I don't hold a grudge, it's the internet, not real life.

I am currently holding a massive grudge.

I have a voodoo doll and am sticking pins in it goodstyle

I've had a headache all day - I hope it's just a coincidence....

goodstyle...is that a clue?

That would be telling Keith

Elsie..maybe ..maybe not

I have loads of grudges. I make the Mafia look forgiving

In real life, yes one or two very petty ones. Mrs welford took a bag of sweets I had received for my birthday from me (from a friend while at school) and I never got them back. 18 years and I'm still waiting.

On MN? No way. Some people get waaaayyy to over invested. Seriously.

Mrs Welford, if you're reading this, I want my midget gems back.

IRL, I can hold grudges for England. I don't easily forgive of someone has deliberately been a twat. I avoid certain posters (not on here, yet, give it time!) who are known trolls and who name change frequently. They don't seem to realise that if they've messaged me, their name has changed, but the message remains. Easily found out.

I would be shit at holding a grudge. I absolutely never remember anyone's name except Maryz who I did not realise was Mary Zed and once that was pointed out to me I could NEVER unknow it but she is as nice as hell so even she I cannot bear a grudge against

I crossed virtual swords with a poster who was being horribly aggressively disablist. However I then noticed her on lots of other threads being all luffly and tolerant and inclusive. So I deduced it was just disabled people she disliked. That's all right then

Bitch.

I don't know that I hold a grudge exactly, but I have a very good, very long memory. I do remember various posters who have previously called me a neglectful laissez faire parent. I also remember the ones who said I looked and dressed like a slut and it was my own fault I wad single because I projected the wrong image.

I don't think most of them post nowadays, or else have name changed. I don't post as much as I used to, so see less of the following from one thread to another just to be goady thankfully.