Feel a bit hurt,Am I Being a bit sensitive or not?

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Have worked for my boss for 9 years,just the two of us working alone together in a small business for the last 7 of those years. Have been trying for a baby with my husband for the last 3.5 years (been married 4.5 years for background and context) had a miscarriage 3 years ago and since then it's taken 3 years to fall pregnant again,we are delighted and feel so so lucky and grateful. I told my boss I was pregnant the day after my 3 month scan and followed all protocols re MATB1 form etc and telling her my news ASAP it was 'safe' to do so (miscarried at 11 weeks the first time)
She simply said 'oh ok,nice one' when I told her and literally didn't mention it again until she overheard me telling a client who is also a friend my happy news a month later,when she took me to one side and said I wasn't to tell ANYONE we meet through work about my news and had to keep it to myself. Fast forwards the rest of my pregnancy and she hasn't mentioned a word to me about it,no health and safety protocols or assessments put in place or even a 'are you coping ok is there anything we can do to make life easier?' In my job I stand up for 9 hours a day with one break in the middle of the day for an hour,I did this until I was 37 weeks plus 4 when I finished for maternity leave. I worked until as far along as I could to help her out and give her more time to find maternity cover but she hasn't tried to find anyone at all.
On the day I left work (I am having 8 months off receiving just stat mat pay) she simply said 'bye have a good weekend' as normal and that was it,no card or goodbye or little present. I'm a bit upset by her completely cold lack of even pretending to care or give a monkeys,I'm stuck between feeling after working alongside each other for so long and knowing how long we tried for surely a £1 card to show she appreciates my hard work (my last week was a record in takings due to my doing so much work despite struggling a little with standing up 8 hours when heavily pregnant) and feeling like a diva for expecting any acknowledgement from her??
Just feel very under appreciated and like no matter how much I put the company first and try my hardest she never gives me any credit. For a bit of background info I'm regularly left as sole charge and open and close up most days and my boss has around 40 days holiday per year to my 17 (I work 4 long ish days) so she is used to relying on me and being able to go abroad without giving the business a second thought,I just run things the same whether she's there or not.
Sorry to waffle on I'm just childishly envious perhaps of my friend who finished work for mat leave a couple of months ago and got flowers,a card and went out for lunch on her last day etc,she said it was a lovely day and felt like a real occasion and a new beginning.

you are still entitled to time off or payment for bank holidays though in the ratio of 4/5. I have worked in payroll, and I have also worked part time, and even if Monday is your usual day off, you should still get your holiday time for it.

Maybe you need a new job post mat leave - doesn't sound as if you are valued -

my SIL runs a business and is really quite mean - eg an employee of hers who had worked tirelessly in the building of the business was leaving - they (ie the other staff members) held a collection - SIL had the money from the collection when MIL innocently asked her "oh are you going to get her X present" to which SIL reply was "oh depends how much people have given" - eg no consideration at all that SIL who is very wealthy might herself might give a contribution to top up what was given by her staff to enable the nicer present to be bought

Some (but definitely not all) small business owners are like this - I would never work for a small business after seeing the way SIL carries on in hers - but I do appreciate she may not be typical -

She doesn't sound like a good sort imo

There isn't much you can do about that. She will no doubt miss your work ethic and dedication when you have gone.

I wouldn't rule out going best. You know the nature of the beast and don't let her get you down. I would keep my eye out for new employment, is there any chance you could start up on your own ?

Congratulations and hope all goes well

Thanks again everyone I am going to think long and hard whilst I'm off whether to go back or not,I have a few options to consider.

I know it might sound harsh, but she isn't obligated to be happy for you or to make a fuss over you. It can feel crappy, but you have to realise that some people just won't care.

The thing is I know she was TTC last year as we once briefly discussed it as I was too

And with that I can understand why she might not have wanted to talk about it with you or enjoy cosy chats about or make a fuss about it. It must have been hard enough to have to look at you every day during your pregnancy.

Sometimes, for whatever reasons, people either just don't care or just don't want to talk about or acknowledge another persons pregnancy, and while it can make you feel a bit sad, it's just how life is.

I understand that Clarrrp and I knowing her I didn't expect a fuss or her to be happy or even a present or even to pretend to be pleased for me, I did though after 9 years of going above and beyond the call of duty for her and her company expect at least a £1 congratulations card to be shoved into my bag/hand as I left on the last hour of my last day.