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To think there is a place reserved in hell for people that don't consider those behind them at concerts?

102 replies

angelos02 · 30/05/2016 16:17

Won't say where I was last night but people sat on others shoulders in front of us at what was otherwise a great gig so I couldn't see anything. I'm almost 6 foot tall too.

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stupidbloodyjob · 30/05/2016 17:20

I'm tall - I think it's fair enough having a go at tall inconsiderate people. It's a pain but I always consider those behind me at gigs (am now too old for anything that involves standing anyway!)

myownprivateidaho · 30/05/2016 17:21

Completely agree about people on shoulders but getting angry about people with buns and wearing perfume is just really weird. Particularly since anyone wearing a topknot is likely to be a woman and therefore likely to be under 5'8 or so tall in any case, so the hair is only going to take them up to 5'10 max, still shorter than lots of other audience members.

OasisOrBlur · 30/05/2016 17:26

Yadddnbu.

There was a woman in front of me last year at a concert who made sure she had lots of space so she could perform stupid elaborate 'look at me everyone' dancing. I was Hmm so much my eyes nearly rolled out. I had to keep ducking left and right to see past her waving body parts.

She was with two young lads too who I'm pretty sure we're her sons. She kept trying to involve them in the weird 'look at meee everyone' performance too. They looked like they wished they were a million miles away.

RuggerHug · 30/05/2016 18:04

Was it Bruce? YADNBU! From a fellow short arse. Always having to complain to DP when he goes on about how amazing Rammsteins stage show is as HE KNOWS I COULDN'T SEE 90% OF IT!!Angry rant over.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 30/05/2016 18:29

The perfume one isn't weird if you get migraines from it. I don't mind a light waft but if you're going to be sat right next to someone for two hours plus drenching yourself in Opium or similar is downright inconsiderate.

kansasmum · 30/05/2016 18:44

Or the ones who last night went backwards and forwards to get beer/go to the loo requiring half the bloody row to stand up every time. Would have been ok but they were a couple but each went individually and every time it was within 5 mins of each other! Ffs just go together!
They must have got up 15 times during the concert!!Angry

CaptainCrunch · 30/05/2016 18:55

I remember going to a David gray gig (the shame...but I liked him at the time). A couple squeezed themselves in front of me and started snogging, it was giving me the boak. I tapped the guy's back and said "I didn't spend 40 quid to watch you slurp her face". He responded with "fuck off" and resumed snogging. I tapped hin again and said "just warning you, I have a low gag reflex and you're making me feel sick, so don't be surprised if I honk all over your back". I got another "fuck off" so I started making really realistic retching noises. It worked thankfully and they moved away.

RhodaBull · 30/05/2016 18:59

You can't complain about someone being tall, but it is very annoying if you are standing there and then someone tall snakes in and stands in front of you. It is just queue jumping.

Dh goes to a gig virtually every week (sometimes more than once a week) and he has a very long list of dislikes. He goes insane if people talk. It's not just the expense of the ticket, but often you've waited a long while to see someone - hear someone even - and it seems quite a few people see a concert as just a social occasion and keep chatting to their mates and are not bothered about the act.

I saw Fleetwood Mac last year and got rather worked up by a) woman who came in at last minute with a messy burger - some people behind me were furious about it as it was giving off a horrendous odour and b) person next to dh who asked if he would swap seats with her partner who was sitting 20 or so rows back. Confused Er, so dh will abandon me, and move to a cheaper seat? We couldn't believe the brass neck of the woman.

Mouikey · 30/05/2016 19:01

Love this thread. I call very tall people (only at concerts) giraffes as they get the best view when standing. I have no issue with them at all, but apparently I am a magnet. As a smaller person this often means I get to watch the back of their head or have a cricked neck by trying to see round them!!! I don't mind this, its the way of the world... however at one concert (Foo Fighters) I was so upset I tapped the guys shoulder in front of me... I was actually in tears because I couldn't see Mr Grohl and I had been standing there for much longer than he... the guy was really lovely (and understood my obsession), letting me stand in front of him for a perfect view :)

user7755 · 30/05/2016 19:02

I went to see Bruce last week - amazing!

Just when you thought you'd found a good place, people would push through, all 'excuse me' as if they were travelling back to their friends somewhere else and then stop right in front of you!

I got so pissed off that in the end I would tap them on the shoulder and say 'you can't stand there, my nose is touching the back of your coat and all I can see is your shoulders. You need to go and stand somewhere else'

It worked.

goldwrapped · 30/05/2016 19:05

YABU. My lovely daughter is 6'3 and loves getting right at the front at concerts but then feels paranoid that everyone behind her is getting cross with her. She always arrives really early to be at the front. If you want a perfect view get there early. I do agree that some people are just rude with their lack of respect for personal space though.

user7755 · 30/05/2016 19:08

If you are 6 ft 3 as long as you stay put people can move around you, if you move and then people can't see you are being a pain in the arse.

We got there 2 hours early gold wrapped - about 15 feet from the front originally and found a good place to stand where we could see. Then people decided to come and push in front of us.

Whitecovers · 30/05/2016 19:13

I've been to loads of gigs and festivals etc and don't get mad at anybody unless they're chucking cups of piss about. I like seeing people dance and have fun. If someone gets on someone's shoulders I just move round them. The only thing I don't understand is when people film the entire thing on their phone, I'm not bothered but don't see the point of it.

plimsolls · 30/05/2016 19:21

It is reserved for:
People who video or take incessant photos on their phones all the way through, particularly when they hold their phones aloft (and as you can see their screens, you can see the photos are generally always rubbish and they don't really need more than one)
People who chat all the way through (unless standing near the bar)
People who squeeze past you as if they are making their way through the crowd but instead stop dead in front of you, in a previously tiny space, sometimes so closely their hair tickles your face. Double inferno for these who then excitedly say to their mate "this is a perfect view!" yes and it used to be mine
People who manoeuvre themselves into a tiny space in the crowd and then hit everyone in the vicinity with their bodies and drinks while they flail wildly "dancing".

Generally just people who have no consideration for anyone who is not them or their mates. I'm sure it's possible to enjoy yourself whilst also making sure you don't stop other people from also enjoying themselves.

WalkingBlind · 30/05/2016 19:21

I despise the idiots who ruined my last gig experience, I was pregnant and struggled to stand so paid extra for seating up on the balcony. Got there early and picked the perfect seats but there was 2 rows in front of me..... And the silly cows on the first row stood up for the whole gig! I was crying trying to decide whether to be in agony and watch the band or sit there and watch it through their iPhones Angry

The whole two rows behind them had to stand up to compensate for it, meaning then everyone behind also had to as well?! So no-one need have bothered to pay for seating Hmm I was appalled that the stewards did nothing.

RufusTheReindeer · 30/05/2016 19:22

Going to see Bruce on friday, we have only been once before and everyone in front of us stood up so we had to

This time we are standing at ground level right at the back so we have plenty of room...hopefully

I hope its not too bad

Spock27 · 30/05/2016 19:24

I'm tall and get a lot of horrible comments aimed at me at standing gigs. But I always arrive really early to queue and get to the front, then make sure that I don't move (by clutching to the barrier despite short people using their elbows in my back and sides). It's not my problem if someone else is short, get there earlier if it's important to you to be at the front. If you're not at the barrier then it becomes much more likely that you'll slowly be shoved backwards by rude people and end up with a crap view.

myownprivateidaho · 30/05/2016 19:25

Oh dear, you really can't get mad at people for dancing at a concert. Including wild elaborate dancing. Even infringing personal space/pushing forward are generally acceptable. Annoying though it is, it's ok to squeeze in front of someone at a gig.

plimsolls · 30/05/2016 19:26

Oh, I definitely can get mad at people for doing all of those things Wink

myownprivateidaho · 30/05/2016 19:27

And @captaincrunch... That is appalling. Who made you the Taliban?

Windsofwinter · 30/05/2016 19:28

I was at Twickenham yesterday. An extremely drunk man in front of my got rather excited when England scored a try. Started waving his arms, and pint, in the air and jumping about. I ended up very wet and very cross Angry very drunk people are definitely more annoying at concerts than very tall people!!

HunterHearstHelmsley · 30/05/2016 19:28

It drives me potty when people complain about others standing in the seating section! It says on the tickets 'people around you may stand'. Sitting on shoulders is twattish but standing is normal.

CaptainCrunch · 30/05/2016 19:33

What the fuck are you on about idaho?

SheDoneAlreadyDoneHadHerses · 30/05/2016 19:35

Is this level of hell accepting those who go to musicals, sit behind you, start singing along to the songs, but a beat or two behind the actual song, so incredibly out of tune that I the person in front of you starts ticking off when you hit a right note and doesn't need use all ten digits to do so, and then when the person in front of you turns round and glares at you, and even your own husband says you're annoying people, you respond with I DON'T CARE, I LOVE THIS SHOW SO MUCH!!!

Twat.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 30/05/2016 19:36

People beside us at a show recently had a full on stand up fight with people behind because a woman insisted on standing dancing the whole way through and they couldn't see