Is someone says they 'fancy' you?

[footballcrazy11]

Is it just me or would that get your back up? I am single and over 50 and I am amazed at how many grown men say this .
I understand I should feel flattered but to me it sounds so immature and silly

What would you rather they say?

It does sound silly, unless you are on an online dating site or something.

I can't imagine anyone over 19 actually saying it out loud in real life.

I'd feel like I'd gone back to school.

I really like you, I think you are nice. Something along those lines I guess.
I suppose I am just nitpicking really but it just winds me up for some reason

Incidentally, do young people still talk about who they 'fancy' or is it in the 'terminology used by old people that deserves an eye roll' category these days?

Ooh stealth boast alert! You sly thing ;)

It doesn't really matter, I think. Some people are good better expressing themselves than others. If someone told me they fancied me, I would find it flattering rather than think that they were silly.

You don't have to feel flattered OP. Maybe you aren't attracted to men who use that turn of phrase. I'm in my 40s and I would use it, so it wouldn't bother me.

But what is it that "gets your back up"?

Thanks Hallowed and Stepaway that's my feeling but didn't know if I was just being a grumpy old bat

Nobility, that really made me laugh

Dione I think you may be right if I was attracted to them I wouldn't care how they worded it would I. I think it sounds like playground talk

Sonja you are right but it just puts me right off them

But "I fancy you" is different to liking and such isn't it?
The only thing you could say in its place is, "I'd really like to shag you" or similar.

I remember hearing that expression for the first time when I was 14 - a young woman called out in the street 'My brother fancies you!' I was both mortified and thrilled! But I do agree that once you leave your teenage years behind things such as 'You're very attractive' or 'I love spending time with you' would be more appropriate. But do be flattered nonetheless.

They could say "I find you attractive..."

That would be nice.

And not "I'd crawl over broken glass just to wank in your shadow..." Which I'll never forget was said to me once

I would prefer that seeyou to be honest

Lisa I am flattered but totally put off by it. It's as if these older men are now single and using the lines the did at 14!

Not so stealth boast! As cringy as it is just enjoy the compliment.

God, I wish someone would fancy me, sadly my short lived fanciable days are long gone

Maybe they're only just out of long relationships and a bit rusty trotting out their old vocabulary?

Wallybanters did you date him

No, no date. But I did laugh hard. So it nearly worked.

If a man said to me 'I think you are nice.' I'd think he was the blandest man from boring town.

Well you have a point Mitzy but that wouldn't grate on me as much

I wondered that StepAway, but it already sounds like a phrase that's been knocking about since the Victorian era, so maybe it's stood the test of time?

My advice: take it while you can still get it.

Yes you are probably right acasual

I believe yoof speak is 'I'm into you'

Sparkle that sounds ok actually