To want to write a cryptic Facebook status about selfish bitches?!

[MrsJen3]

FUMING. My mum is 70 this year, hadn't made any set plans but she was hoping her family and friends would drop in to see her on the day and she would do buffet type food and drink and I was planning on making a birthday cake for her. We, as in her immediate family, were then taking her for a meal in the. evening.
My aunty has a daughter who is visiting from Australia (for about the third time in two years)for a couple if weeks either side of my mum's birthday. My aunty has booked a venue for a surprise welcome home party for her daughter on the exact day of mum's 70th birthday!
This upset my mum a little but I said never mind you'll still get to see everyone and I'll ask aunty if we can bring the cake and sing happy birthday to you there.
I just asked and she set word for word "I'll tell you what you just all carry on with your own plans for the day I won't mind that you are not there".
What a fucking bitch! I just said ok and hung up but I am FUMING and want her and the rest of the family to know that I think she is an utter bitch. A cryptic message on FB will do the job nicely - should I or should I leave it_

Sparkle I'm afraid it's a surprise party so I can't mention any of this to my cousin.

Mention it to your cousin anyway to piss off your Aunt? or is that just the kind of PA thing I'd do?

Haha bounty that too has crossed my mind! Every childish PA thing I could possibly think of doing in revenge has crossed my mind but sadly I know I will do my upmost act like a dignified adult.

That's EXACTLY why you should talk to cousin
That will learn thoughtless bitch aunt.

Reported me for saying "you sound like a delight"?

This is aibu that is littered with fucks and cunts, and you report that?

If you want to be all PA but not specifically spoil her surprise party, then why don't you make a big fuss to your cousin about how much your mum is looking forward to her popping in on her 70th - a special guest for a special birthday? If nothing else it'll make your aunt look like a dick later on.

I've had a glass of wine now so please don't encourage me! I was planning a very polite FB post on cousins page to say how sorry we are that we won't be able to attend her party - the invite does not mention that it's a surprise so how was I to know?

Perhaps penguin you should learn to bitch with more clarity and learn to read before posting - its not my family that don't wish to party with me, just my aunt who doesn't wish to share her party with my mum.

Mirrivan, that sounds a terribly grown up and sensible way to deal with it and is more that likely what I will do tomorrow but for tonight I will continue to plot childish revenge in my head!

I don't quite get it.

Your mum had no plans for her birthday, but you're fuming at someone else making plans for their own event on that day?

This is highly confusing

Its not confusing at all. I do agree there has been a communication prob..op you should have made your Aunt aware ages ago that you wanted to keep this date free for 70th bday celebrations. Ps.. Enough with the goading penguin, you're coming across as a proper arsehole!!

I'd have thought the Aunt would be well aware of the date of her sister's 70th birthday and not need reminding.

Peace and love people, Yes AIBU can be feisty but we still don't allow personal attacks and will remove them when reported

Sleepyhead - I couldn't have said it better myself. And that will be thread on she has never spoken about this party to my mum and only felt able to post the invites when my mum was out of the country.

Omg too much wine now - 'and that will be why'

For those of you who are finding this confusing please take the time to read.my posts as it's quite simple really.

"Reported me for saying "you sound like a delight"? "

Once again displaying your aptitude to spectacularly get it wrong. Of course that's not why I reported your unpleasant post. Clearly MNHQ agreed as the post has gone.

Does the cousin actually have some secret news? so it's kinda a reverse surprise party (surprise for the guests)? pregnant? engaged?

Not that that makes it okay to plan it on the 70th.. its just that her party timing doesn't make sense if it's for "coming home" but it's in the middle of her visit??

Ok ive read your OP but do not understand how your Mum is upset if she doesn't know about her party. Or have I got ghat wrong?

"Takes a dick to know one."

Is this schoolsnet??

YANBU OP. I would be hurt too. But as you already know, cryptic FB statuses are not the way to go. HOpe your mum has a nice day.

It is simple jen. I'm not sure where the confusion is.

OPs mum has a 70th birthday. Plan is (as it usually is) for family to drop in throughout the day, buffet is provided.

Mum's sister has a DD who lives in Australia. Is visiting over the birthday. Has been twice in the last couple of years. Will be in the country for 2 weeks before the birthday and 2 weeks after.

Mum's sister has planned a surprise party for her DD for the exact afternoon of her own sister's 70th.

OP says fine, can we bring a cake and sing happy birthday to my mum.

Aunt kicks off big time.

OP wants to post PA FB post, is convinced not to.

OP now steadily getting pissed.