Aibu to want dh to do a night feed occasionally

[SweetElizaRose]

I'm at my wits end, I've got a severe pnd depression diagnosis for which I'm on medication but part of me thinks I'm just really really tired.
I've expressed for dd since she was born and she's bow five months. For five months I haven't had longer than two and a half hours sleep in one go. I'm now getting splitting headaches and problems with my memory. On top of the pnd.
My nights go like this:

10.30pm express and feed dd
1am - dd up and then express again back to bed about 2am
4am - dd up again quite often
5am - express
6.30am - get up and get ds ready for school

In all this time dh has not done a single night feed. He's never got up with the kids of a morning. He works from home unless he's away and doesn't get up until 8.30am most days. At weekends he plays golf all day on s Saturday and has a lie in on a Sunday.
Aibu to think it really would not hurt him to do a night feed at the weekend? I know I've still got to express but I'd be up for half the time and not as frequently. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Some nights - like last night - dd is up every hour and a half. Then my blood sugar went low (t1 diabetic) and now I'm expressing again.
Dh has been asleep the whole time. He puts earplugs in.

I had a prem and was told by 3 months supply is established.

I suspect the OP is beating herself up with misplaced guilt about something, possibly the prem birth, and seems to have fixated on getting breast milk into her baby as the number 1 test of motherhood. I did the same. It's obviously crazy.

OP - can you explain why you're still putting yourself through this?

Dear Eliza. I was an ardent B/Feeder. But if one of my DDs was in your position I would recommend switching to formula right now. She's 5 months old, will be going on to solids soon and you've given her an amazing start. Now is the time for you to be kind to yourself. What you are going through is torture - in the proper definition of the word.

How long can you stay at your mum's? If that were me I'd have you over for as long as necessary till you got some sleep. How old are your other children? Can they stay too? And to be fair, if he were my SiL I'd be handing his arse to him on a plate. How dare he treat you like this?

And when this is over and you feel more like yourself, get yourself over to the Relationship board and get all the advice you'll need to leave the bastard.

I expressed for six months so I appreciate how hard it is OP. I had to stop at that point though as I was a wreck and had had enough! But a selfish lazy partner must make it a hundred times worse, I think I would go to my mum's with the kids and not bother coming back unless he stepped the fuck up, who the hell does he think he is

I had a pre term baby and express breast fed. STBxh didn't help at all. I was desperate. It took my cousin to come and stay the weekend who took one look at me and said come on let's go to Boots and get some formula. It changed my life. I did feel so guilty with not expressing but oh boy did it make me a happier mummy.

I hope you got some rest at your mum's.

Your DH needs to be explicitly told- by not asking you are giving him an excuse to not help. In the night when the baby wakes- wake him and say- can you feed her.