My children have been asking me why they have to go to church/ choir / sunday school and as I am rather a wishy washy Christian I have lots of different answers (I can't just say BECAUSE IT IS RIGHT, AND NOT GOING IS WRONG as my parents did)
Among the many and varied answers I give them are:
About choir - I tell them they get a great musical grounding which means when they are teenagers they will already have a professional attitude towards music and may even get paid.
(I also tell them that there is another reason which is selfish but true - I am in the choir and I like having them near me. They appreciate this as they are young enough to like being near me too :))
About church - I tell them that things that happen at church are different from things that happen anywhere else and people need the change of pace, style, and attitude; a different way of thinking and breathing and holding yourself. I am trying to tell them in dc-friendly language what spirituality is - not learning about ethics and customs, not taking part in community (though all this has value); but putting oneself in the presence of god and allowing oneself to be held.
I also tell them that they may not know why this is important, but they should practise it and get used to it so it is there when they need it.
I am having a tough time at the moment and there are times when I don't know where to go and what to do. Churches are traditional places of sanctuary and my church is to me, on Sundays. Even physically. Having a neutral place to go where I belong and can be among people but not analysed; where I know I am needed, but very capable of carrying out my responsibilities.
- but I would not know about that sanctuary if I had not been told as a child and habituated to it. I would not know how to access it.
I do not talk to them about sanctuary because I don't want to be talking to children about bad times and feeling desperate. I hope they don't know anything like that feeling, and won't for years, in fact never.
This is a long answer to why I think religion is acceptable in schools. Not all adults need or want religion. But if you do, you don't know what it is unless you have been introduced to it. I don't mind if people are religious or not and if they have reasons to move away from religion and can be happy doing so, then that's ok. But helping children to access spirituality is as important - as a regular habit - as accessing physical exercise.